---He "washes lettuce out of his body with fried chicken"
Maybe he's an alien from another planet or something?---
Some people are just plain lucky. There is a guy at work who has 2 big macs as a snack before a full rack of ribs. He ate 22 slices of pizza at a buffet. At boston market, he has to get 3 chickens (1.5 for him, and 1.5 for the rest of his family). He eats a 12 pack of eggo waffles or a dozen eggs for breakfast.
His health stats are all superb. He is a marvel.
---I know you feel like you're at your wits end on this, but I'm sure you've discovered that nagging gets you nowhere.---
Everyone, everywhere, would do well to understand this simple truth.
---We have a fundemental difference in food. I look at it as nutrition, he looks at it as pleasure.---
This is very similar to the fights couples have over money due to the differences in their upbringing. For some, money is security. For others, it is merely a means. For others, it is everything.
People who try to CHANGE others attitudes are doomed for failure. Those who work WITH their partners to compromise see success.
The bit about how he has tuned you out is also very appropriate. While I can completely understand you being annoyed at trying to diet, yet being surrounded by temptation, I think the fight is getting sidetracked.
You keep calling it a "food war". In war, anything goes.
Maybe you should try rephrasing the issue to him. He may think you are nagging him to eat better (and you are, but that doesn't have to be the focal point).
Would you be happier if he just did a better job keeping "junk" out of sight? If so, how can you both make that happen?
so I'm complaining because he wants all this stuff from the store and my counters are littered with bags of chips, muffins from costco, cookies, crackers and more junk.
I can't even open the fridge without some kinda sauce bottle or soda falling out. I have no room for my food !!!
and it makes me irritable when the kitchen counters are filled with boxes, bags and more boxes and bags.
He only likes white bread... he only likes ranch dressing on his baked potato, he only likes spicy fried chicken... he is sooooo
picky and has bottles of all kinds of seasonsings too...
and talk about soda pop !!! half the fridge is filled with his soda pop because he likes it cold and drinks so much.
its not just that he is so picky, that he litters the kitchen with boxes and packages, that he takes up all the room in the fridge, but that all that high fat food will catch up with him.
Its a bunch of things, not just one... and also there is the temptation for me to eat badly as thats mostly what there is. I started drinking soda pop because there is no room in the fridge to make my iced green tea, etc etc etc...........
and cheetos... what the hell? I can't believe thats a food product !!!
He fills the freezer with sausage, bacon, hash browns, meat meat meat.
I do complain a lot but mainly because I want some room too.
Costco is certainly good for some things, eyeglasses, prescritions, cleaning products... but the food is too much.
We were throwing away TONS of food......... because we bought in bulk and what started this food war as I told him...
just let me know what you want to eat so I'm not ending up throwing everything out.
what a mistake.
anyways, I hate my counters all cluttered with boxes., I find it unsightly.
I admit he is getting better about eating what he buys but..........
its too much junk...
no fruit but banannas. No veggies.
I think some of it too is not only that this house is too small for stockpiling, but that I was single a long time and not used to this much food being around and all over.
I'm doing my best with it and will declutter again next week in the kitchen, so maybe some of these boxes, packages can go somewhere else but I don't think there will be any more room for anything.
We live very close to Costco, it's closer than the grocery store and have membership to sams too...
I dont know but thats what he wants.
I did 90% of my shopping at costco (5 minutes from where I lived)! The only thing I didn't buy there was quick perishables (milk, bread, etc.).
About every 3 months, I get boneless chicken breasts, pork chops, maybe once every 6 months beef - I didn't fix it as often). I'd cut the chops in half because they were so thick!. I'd wrap them in saran wrap (or equivalent) and freeze them.
I "fried" them (with PAM) (cut into bite sized pieces, sear them on high, then turn to low) and added veggies (peppers, potatos, onions, etc.) and let them cook on low while the rice cooker was going. Or sometimes baked potatos. Once in a great while, cream of mushroom soup instead of the veggies. Or I'd steam some brocolli or cauliflower.
NO seasonings! Not even salt. If anyone wanted that it was added on your plate. This was when I cooked while my daughter lived with me.
What you might consider is a small fridge for "your" food. Maybe even a small freezer (like apartment sized), too. I know the freezers are around $150, not sure of fridges...I think maybe $90 or so. I've seen them at Lowes.
Chop -- I have a pretty good metabolism, too. But still, I don't eat to excess. I've maintained a fairly constant weight no matter what I eat. The difference in my weight was due to exercize. However, I am diabetic too so do need to watch what I eat.
We already have a freezer and its FULL !
Costco is selling greek yougurt now ( new item) and its very good....
although the container is very big, it does last over a month before expiring ( what I'm eating for breakfast today, a small amount with a peach).
Maybe I'm just not used to be around all his food ???????????
BUT>>>>>>>>>>>>>It's just me and him.!!!!!!!!
When the frezzer starts to have room he runs out and refills it. I told him to stop doing that so I can get to stuff at the bottom and the fridge and freezer doesn't always have to be full.
When he buys cakes and all that I started putting them on the dining table ( out of the kitchen)
I find buying all this food is wasteful........... I'm working on it with him. Maybe he thinks he is showing love.......
maybe he just likes to eat and is a foodie or both.
There is just too much food going around here ! I told him, this house is not a cooking show set !!!!