How much does your husband understand period issues?
I'm trying to figure out if my husband was being a jerk on this one, or if I'm expecting too much understanding.
As quickly as possible: I'm anemic. I was getting my period every 3 weeks for the last 2 years, and it's super heavy, so no surprise. Because it's so heavy (I soak through a super tampon and pad every hour or so for about half a day at the heaviest), there are some things I'm not willing to do on that day. One of them is train travel. I have to change my pad/tampon too often, it's no fun for me, and the bathrooms are gross. I have to remind him of this every time, but whatever.
Ok, so obviously I'm not getting over the anemia like this, so in October I started the pill. You're supposed to start this on Day 1 of your period, so I wait for that. While I'm waiting, I'm noticing my breasts are looking bigger, and everything smells and tastes funny. Pregnancy? I was TERRIFIED! Up until this point we were using withdrawl for BC (yes, I know). Well, finally it's the Saturday my period is due. H had wanted to go away this weekend, but I told him no way, my period was due. So Saturday comes, no period, and I finally tell him that I'm so afraid I might be pregnant. He was going to the drugstore while I took the girls to the grocery store, so he said no biggie, he was SO sure I wasn't (?? because withdrawl is so great?) but that he'd pick up a test there.
Well, he forgot the test. Even though I'd just told him a half an hour earlier that I thought I might be pregnant, it obviously wasn't worth remembering.
However, my period started the next night. Ok, so I start taking my pill. Monday is really heavy, as usual, but then Tuesday is even heavier, and so is Wednesday. I won't go into details, but even I was shocked by the blood flow. We're talking scary amounts of blood and clots. I started to worry that I was miscarrying. H got me a test (we live in his home country and I don't speak the language well enough to get a test), but he got a not very sensitive one, and it came out negative. At least I knew that if I had been pregnant, I wasn't any more.
Wednesday night, he books a weekend trip for Saturday. He says, "Well, I figured your period would be over by then, so you wouldn't mind travelling."
I continued to bleed heavily, ended up seeing an OB on Friday to find out what was going on (no sign of a miscarriage, so it could have just been a reaction to starting the pill. No way to tell really), but I'd lost a LOT of blood that week, and I was feeling utterly awful. Plus emotionally spent from all the worry, both about the volume of blood loss and the possibility of miscarriage.
So, I was really mad at H for booking the trip. I was SO tired, I just wanted to lay in bed all weekend. I probably lost a pint of blood, from an already very anemic state. I felt like he just wanted to take his trip, which he'd reluctantly put off because my period was due the weekend before, and didn't consider what I was going through, even though I explained how much blood I was losing and how worried I was.
Is this just par for the course with men and period issues? Or would you expect your husband to be more supportive?
It's been bugging me for a month (probably partly because I still feel like crap. I am taking iron, but it takes a while.)
Thanks for your perspective on this ladies.