amberlynn

Rhea

We were eating ice cream at Baskin Robbins the other night and my husband was sitting next to his mother. He made us all go eat it outside because he couldn't take the "odor". UGH!



Mmm how I love BR...mint choc chip shakes are the bestest. Oh oh! Or the pink bubblegum ice cream w/the little pink gum pieces in it....I must go to BR tomorrow must must must...and I will eat it outside just cause if I'm in there I'll probably not be able to stop laughing long enough to partake in it's yummyness before it melts and that would make me sad.

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dcrim

MsStacy -- take the toothbrush and dip it in shoe polish! Then leave on a tissue that you soaked in some tea and allowed to dry (BTW, that's a technique for making things appear "antique").

That was a technique used by the military to actually polish shoes. Tedious, yes. But obviously leaves a stain. (not the tea part)

Rhea - LOVE the mint choc chip!!

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amberlynn

Note to self: Dont ever plan a trip to stay with Dcrim! If for some reason someone crashes with Dcrim.... HIDE YOUR TOOTHBRUSH!! My son took my H toothbrush and scratched his butt with it... i died laughin for weeks everytime i seen him use it... so mean i know...but the crap ive put up with from him... i deserved a good laugh... of course i told the litttle one to do it... it was after i took him out the bathtub..so his tushie was clean! he still doesnt know about it...

TabbyCat

Well, I would imagine your husband knows his parents odors, habits, etc. These are his parents and he needs to be the one to address this issue. You have to have a talk with him. Sounds like this isn't as much of a problem for him because he leaves.

You need to communicate your displeasure to your husband. After all, you are the one he has sex with, and I'm sure he would like that to continue. There's an old saying that goes something like, If Momma's not happy, no one's happy. You are the one with all the power here. Maybe tell him you are going to a hotel, and you'll be back in a couple of weeks.

BTW, I know the smell you are talking about. We have a woman at work like that. Horrible!

Dancer88

I really admire you! Three weeks! At the time of an adoption and a renovation! You really have stayed very centered....

I came across a good book excerpt on handling your mother-in-law atThe Daughter-In-Law’s Survival Guide | Parents and In Laws | Family

And there are other good strategies on that site for MIL relationships. Good luck!

MsStacy

We think alike DCrim! I have an old toothbrush I use for cleaning. A couple weeks ago I cleaned my oven so the toothbrush is a little black from the grease. I thought about trading out for that one.....would love to see the reaction when they go to use my toothbrush and find it's all black. I still can't bring myself to do it though. (But check back in a few days...I don't think I can be pushed much further without making a STATEMENT!) No matter how awful, disgusting, insensitive, repulsive, or down right rude they are, I can't act the same way...guess I was raised better than that (D*AMN IT!)

Hubby is doing the best he can. He has talked to his father on previous visits. We have asked that some things be done, or done differently. He has been as tactful as possible, but they don't do anything to change their behaviors. Even this time he has asked them for some consideration in some areas and they just don't listen I guess. We have resigned ourselves to the fact that we just have to get through it. As I said, they only come once a year, and I don't see them being able to physically do that for too many more years. Believe me...there are worse things than what I have vented about here. You would be so repulsed if I told all...... The toothbrush is just such a personal violation to me, still can't understand it. Anyway, I don't blame hubby. We're both trying to do the best we can. Shoot, I don't even tell him about a lot of it. He gets so disappointed in his parents...I try to spare him some.

Well...my house is spotless and smells fresh and clean! It's 2:00 in the afternoon. I don't know what time they will be home this evening, but I think I have about 3-4 hours of solace. Lining them up again.....CHEERS!


Countdown: 6 days to go (less than a week left!)

MsStacy

Thank you Dancer. It really helps to know that other people don't think I'm being an insensitive b*tch! I'll take a look at your link....

MsStacy

SH*T! 2:25 they came home. So much for solace

dcrim

Well, you got 20 minutes more than you expected! Hang in there...only 6 days to go.

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MsStacy

Can you believe they weren't even here an F*ING HOUR and they used the toothbrush already? They're out to dinner with friends.

I know...y'all are probably tired of hearing about this. And even though I expect it, I'm just pissed every time.

And my house is already RANK!

SH*T!

amberlynn

shoulda scrubbed the toilet with it!!! you still got time while theyre out with friends! DO IT! DO IT!

MsStacy

We had a nice 4th today. Parade, and then big community event at the city park with jumpy houses, pony rides, BBQ, booth games and fireworks....all my daughters favorites. It's a work night for H so just DD and myself, my parents and the in-laws. Very difficult to manage large venues and crowds like that with my MILs size because she can't walk any distance. Anyway.... a lot of planning went into the logistics of getting her there and home and I actually enjoyed myself (especially with my DD )

So...everyone is in bed. I don't know why the smell gets so bad? It's not the personal hygiene smell...it's that internal smell that comes from her. It is SO BAD...my bedroom door is closed and the windows open (and I'm cold!) but it just seems to seep into everywhere. RANK!!!! I'd like to go to sleep! Putrid...just a putrid smell.

Clock just hit midnight....only 5 days left...Lord, help me now!

dcrim

Hang on MsStacy!

Soon you'll get to clean for good!

Next year...use the toilet method or polish method...and...get yourself a motel for the while! Let H deal with them...you can clean afterwards.

Maybe get one of those squirt air fresheners...the ones that spray every few minutes, place several around the house...

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amberlynn