07-07-2009, 10:13 PM
Join Date: Jun 2009
| | Re: Separation Anxiety from Baby & Resentful Towards Husband
I think you do have sep anxiety and you need to work on it as it seems a bit "over the top". The child is with his father and your dh has just as much "say" over these overnights as you. Besides, your CHILD needs to learn being away from you, too, and trusting his own father to be there, without you.
Some sep anxiety is natural and one must learn to be adult about it and realistic. If YOU show such anxiety it is BAD for your CHILD, you will transfer your anxiety to the child! You must show a confident, happy face toward anticipation of the trip, for the sake of your child. Whether you are anxiety ridden or not, you must not let on to the child that you feel this way.
You must just kiss him goodbye at the door, tell him how fun his trip will be, and off he goes! NO TEARS and SADNESS.
You must teach growing up and separating and it begins from very early on....day one. Your goal as a mother is to teach INDEPENDENCE from YOU.