Some of you know the story that after 21 years of marriage of H wants us to separate, but is still in the house and in my bed.
Things have been horrible but we are still having sex, great sex too. My mind is all over the place. This is not just a one off either it is often, more than before he told me. Why are we doing this
Since my long-term marriage didn't turn out so well, I'm probably not the best to offer advice. But, based on your other posts, I would have to say NO. Just look at the grief this man's actions have caused you. He doesn't want to be married to you, but he wants sex. I would have a frank talk with him. Tell him that he is the one who has CHOSEN to end the marriage. And the sex (or lack there of) goes with that decision. Since he wants to end the marriage, he really needs to leave the house! It is almost as though he is torturing you--wants a divorce, but won't leave the bed or the house. I'm sorry; he needs to leave you alone or be a husband. He can't have it both ways!
I understand all this, it just doesn't seem that easy when we are here together.
I probably need to confront him and tell him to decide once and for all. But he admits that he still finds me sexually attractive. Am I just settling for this as it is better than nothing
Since my long-term marriage didn't turn out so well, I'm probably not the best to offer advice. But, based on your other posts, I would have to say NO. Just look at the grief this man's actions have caused you. He doesn't want to be married to you, but he wants sex. I would have a frank talk with him. Tell him that he is the one who has CHOSEN to end the marriage. And the sex (or lack there of) goes with that decision. Since he wants to end the marriage, he really needs to leave the house! It is almost as though he is torturing you--wants a divorce, but won't leave the bed or the house. I'm sorry; he needs to leave you alone or be a husband. He can't have it both ways!
With you, I don't think from reading your posts you can seperate sex and love. Having sex with him is confusing to you in that he wants to end the marriage and why I think its not a good idea for you.
It will only serve to drive you crazy and confuse you.
I am kidding myself that I can have sex without strings. While H obviously can, I cant. Is it like everything else that he is staying to make it easier for me, so is sex all part of that idea of his.
He knows I love him, although I actually haven't told him that at all lately, so is he abusing that. I would like to think not, but like all this he does appear in control.
Time for YOU to take control. Know what I mean? If he controls you, you will slide d-o-w-n. Get a grip...you can do it! Don't let yourself function out of fear.
I am turning into the desperate woman I promised myself I wouldn't become, but I love him and don't want any of this. What does he really want, I am too scared to ask.
That will be me some time soon I know. I am just so scared. The kids are grown, now H will be gone. I have never been my own person, and don't quite know how to be
Sex confuses and muddles things when they aren't clear, it's why it's important to not have sex early in a relationship. I personally can't even go in to the sex arena if the emotional aspect as well as direction of things isn't on target. I hope you find the answers you need. Big hugs
Should I still be sleeping with him 
