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View Poll Results: Do you have a paying job (women only)?
Yes, I currently have a job 32 72.73%
No, I do not have a job and am supported by my husband 3 6.82%
I don't have a job now, but I used to before marriage and/or kids 6 13.64%
I don't have a job now, but I will in the future 3 6.82%
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Old 01-30-2013, 03:29 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Ladies, do you work outside the home?

I'm curious how many women here have paying jobs outside the home, because I see an assumption here often that women are all SAHM's. And I see it over and over and over, as though there are hardly any married women who have paying jobs outside the home:

He works all day and then comes home to...
He brings home the paycheck so...
She sits at home all day while he works...
He meets her paycheck needs but she...

I honestly know few women who don't work outside the home, whether they have children or not. I grew up with immigrant parents, old school, old country, yet my mother worked her whole life including in the the old country. Same for my aunts.

Maybe it's because I live in a big city and have always had a paying job, but I am perplexed by this assumption that women are mostly SAHM's and don't have jobs. I am also frustrated at the assumption that men meet women's needs with a paycheck when I know so very many women who 1) have their own paychecks and don't need their husband's paycheck at all, and 2) would laugh to think that their husband's biggest and most important contribution to the marriage is money.

I think that assumption sells both men and women short. I also think it is insulting to all the women who DO have jobs and contribute some, most or all of the funds to run the household - we exist too!

I'd be interested in your thoughts, and your jobs! I work for a global software company, and have spent years in consulting.
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Old 01-30-2013, 03:34 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I was a SAHM for up until about 6 months ago (for about 4 years).

I had a few WAH jobs but nothing that paid squat.

I did it because daycare would have killed us.

I work now because we both HAVE to.

Also partly because I feel the need for having a job incase he does split so I can try and support myself and the kids.

I do customer service/admin assistant type jobs.
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Old 01-30-2013, 03:36 PM   #3 (permalink)
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The closest option for me was husband supports. Actually, he is not working, but fighting for disability. I am receiving disability.
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Old 01-30-2013, 04:03 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I was a SAHM for up until about 6 months ago (for about 4 years).

I had a few WAH jobs but nothing that paid squat.

I did it because daycare would have killed us.

I work now because we both HAVE to.

Also partly because I feel the need for having a job incase he does split so I can try and support myself and the kids.

I do customer service/admin assistant type jobs.
A lot of people in my family have both hubby and wife working because they have to. My parents certainly did.

I would think in today's economic climate that would be very common.
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We both have full time professional positions outside the home.
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Old 01-30-2013, 04:15 PM   #6 (permalink)
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My husband and I both have full time professional jobs outside the home.

My mom, aunties, grandmothers ..all were college educated and worked outside the home so that's the norm for me.
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Old 01-30-2013, 04:23 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I had a successful career for 20 years then I had kids. My career isn't family friendly and daycare /work related expenses took so much of my pay that the stress wasn't worth it so I quit with my husbands blessing,
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Old 01-30-2013, 04:26 PM   #8 (permalink)
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My husband and I both have full time professional jobs outside the home.

My mom, aunties, grandmothers ..all were college educated and worked outside the home so that's the norm for me.
That's pretty cool! I was the first in our family to go to college, so that's very impressive to me that your whole family of women were able to do so.
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I've been a SAHM for 11 years now. I am not ever returning to work.

It was hubby's idea I stay at home to raise the children.
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That's pretty cool! I was the first in our family to go to college, so that's very impressive to me that your whole family of women were able to do so.
It is cool.
I think the men in my family have been ahead of the times. One grandmother was put through college by her husband (my grandfather). That was unheard of for that time (the 1940s).
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Old 01-30-2013, 04:42 PM   #11 (permalink)
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It was tough for me to vote as more than one option on the poll is true for me.

- I currently don't work, though I did in the past before my son.

- I do plan on going back to work. I have tried to find part time work, but - thus far have not found any work where the pay would counteract the daycare costs. Thus - it is most likely I may wait until my son (almost three) is in preschool.
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Old 01-30-2013, 04:46 PM   #12 (permalink)
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I've worked my entire life, but am now a student. My SO has no need to support me financially.
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I'm a 'Domestic Engineer' and have been for 6 yrs (end of Feb).

I was in banking 20 years prior to the above

I recently accepted a pt position (a few hours a week) doing the books for a non profit organization I've been volunteering at for the last 2 yrs.
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I've been a SAHM for 11 years now. I am not ever returning to work.

It was hubby's idea I stay at home to raise the children.
Do you ever miss working?

I work with a lot of great people, and meet new people all the time, so I think I would miss that aspect of it.
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I've worked my entire life, but am now a student. My SO has no need to support me financially.
What are you studying?
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