I'm curious how many women here have paying jobs outside the home, because I see an assumption here often that women are all SAHM's. And I see it over and over and over, as though there are hardly any married women who have paying jobs outside the home:
He works all day and then comes home to...
He brings home the paycheck so...
She sits at home all day while he works...
He meets her paycheck needs but she...
I honestly know few women who don't work outside the home, whether they have children or not. I grew up with immigrant parents, old school, old country, yet my mother worked her whole life including in the the old country. Same for my aunts.
Maybe it's because I live in a big city and have always had a paying job, but I am perplexed by this assumption that women are mostly SAHM's and don't have jobs. I am also frustrated at the assumption that men meet women's needs with a paycheck when I know so very many women who 1) have their own paychecks and don't need their husband's paycheck at all, and 2) would laugh to think that their husband's biggest and most important contribution to the marriage is money.
I think that assumption sells both men and women short. I also think it is insulting to all the women who DO have jobs and contribute some, most or all of the funds to run the household - we exist too!
I'd be interested in your thoughts, and your jobs! I work for a global software company, and have spent years in consulting.
I had a successful career for 20 years then I had kids. My career isn't family friendly and daycare /work related expenses took so much of my pay that the stress wasn't worth it so I quit with my husbands blessing,
It was tough for me to vote as more than one option on the poll is true for me.
- I currently don't work, though I did in the past before my son.
- I do plan on going back to work. I have tried to find part time work, but - thus far have not found any work where the pay would counteract the daycare costs. Thus - it is most likely I may wait until my son (almost three) is in preschool.
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