Re: What would you say to this?
I'm a man chiming in here. How old is your husband?
Here's my take on it.
He's tired, and he also might physically be changing where his desire isn't as strong out of the gate. As men get older, we don't "wake up with wood" every morning, or pop one just because, like when we were young. Unfortunately, we're just like a small motor. When you first buy it, one pull and it's revving hard and strong. As it gets older, it needs more priming, and playing with the knobs, a few extra pulls on the cord. Sometimes the motor just won't start on a given day.
You say your husband works 2 jobs, I'm assuming hes older, He's TIRED and also maybe losing testosterone as well. Add into that the feeling that his wife doesn't find him attractive and his wife doesn't initiate...well you have a man who needs some extra revving who isn't getting it.
Be patient and reassuring more than anything. Also pursue him more. Don't SAY...SHOW.
The more posts I read.
The more I love my wife!