koala49

I have asked him if he is happy many times and I get the same reply that yes all is well, I have said things about how much he is in his shed and his argument is that he doesnt like television and there is nothing to do upstairs and he has to keep busy. I understand that he is someone who likes to keep himself occupied but he never suggests going out for dinner or going anywhere else, the only place he has asked me to go for ages is YOU GUESSED IT the bike show, now I dont mind bikes, but when I see his all the time I am damned if I want to go and look at a thousand more, so I didnt go. Recently I went out with a friend to a Football club on a Friday night and he seemed a little upset about that, then when I mentioned that a friend and I are planning on going on a cruise next year well that was it, the next time I suggested going out with him he said Oh really, you want to be seen in public with me. What that was for I have no idea. When we go out for dinner its always my idea, last night I asked him to go to the club because a country singer he likes was playing there. When I go out I really like to look my best and make an effort to do my hair and make up, and I think I look pretty good, he makes no effort whatsoever, dirty shoes and leaves his work clothes on which is a pair of jeans and a jumper, its like he just doesnt care

Corpuswife

Go to the shed. Tell him how you feel. Tell him what you want in the marriage. A good way to communicate with him is using I statement..."I feel____, when you stay in the shed all of the time." This will keep him from being defensive.

You have to broach this subject again and make it clear. Don't give him a speech and try to listen to him.