SB - as you said, most women who choose much older men do so because of their own issues, not because of the man's SR. And there are so few women choosing the much older man that it is not a common enough occurance to prove AK's SR theory.
How about 8? I know of at least 8 what pass for happy couples that are on marriage number 2 and there are between 8 to 10 years between them.
Come up with enough singular anomalies and it really isn't an anomaly any more is it?
I look young for my age (47). Consequently I have consistently dated mid to late 30's and early 40's women. Most of whom also looked young for their age.
No interest whatsoever in trying to establish a relationship with a twenty-something ... they aren't finished growing at that age. I want someone with their life experiences (screw ups, bad choices, and uncertainty) behind them.
Second time around ... most people want someone that is going where they are going, or has already gotten there. For this reason, I think it's valid that a woman may prefer a man that has 'established' himself. She has gotten the bad boys, man-children, and good for little to nothing men out of her system and life.
No Entropy, I invite all posts. I just didn't know why you felt that article was a response to my post before it. And so far, still no one can say that they know young women in real life who are "into" older men, whether for sex or for relationships. It just doesn't happen other than the one-off situation. Yet AK would have you guys believing that at age 40, YOU can up your SR to a 9 - 10. But a woman cannot do this. And he wants you to believe that YOU can get a wife who is age 25 and SR9 - 10, when you are 40. BWAH HAHAHA HAHA HAHA HAAHAAA HAHA!!!!! And the men actually believe this???
Interestingly enough, IRL, I don't know any much younger women with much older men, but in my own circle of friends/acquaintances/family alone, I DO know of four much older women with much younger men - myself included (15 years)...
Having said that, this wouldn't have happened when I was in my 40s, because I need a man who shares at least some of my life experiences, interests and level of maturity. I think this is why it is always the percentage age difference rather than the number.
Another factor to consider is often the disparate wealth between couples (not so in my case) when there is a large age gap. This would indicate a different sort of attraction, rather than SR...
I believe Athol has got some things right, but this certainly isn't one of them!
"Come to the edge, he said. We are afraid, they said. Come to the edge, he said. They came to the edge, He pushed them and they flew. Come to the edge, Life said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, Life said. They came. It pushed them... And they flew.” ~ Guilliame Apollinaire ~
Deejo - even at the highest age difference you gave examples of, 10 years, this is not even close to 15 years, as AK tries to state is easily possible.
And for the record, highest SR woman I dated, was 2 years my senior. No one would ever, ever, guess she was 49. She looked mid-thirties tops.
Serious question, no veiled animosity. Have you visited the MMSL forums, or would you consider that hostile territory?
There are LOTS of guys there whom after failed marriage are doing this very thing. Or at least they are saying they are.
It isn't for me. I'm not looking for women to bed or a particular SR ... I'm looking for a partner; someone that also wants to go where I'm going. And yes, I do have very specific physical standards, so SR is certainly important. But it doesn't matter a whit to me if she is 30 or 40 or 50. She just has to be the right woman.