I was asking my DS23 yesterday "why on earth a man would want to show erotica of his wife on the internet, even with her head spliced off" (rather a gastly thought....)
My DS said: "Some men do it because they want other men to see what they are getting in bed....it is like a bragging thing, a competition thing. Kinda like my rims on my car are better than your rims on your car. Then on the other hand, maybe he just gets off on thinking other guys are looking at his wife naked...and in a proxy kind of way he is getting OTHER men off....who IS this weirdo???".
Gads, kids.....from mouths of babes....
I NEVER thought of THIS possibility!
GA: Do you tend to do this because of the "my rims are better than your rims" or the "like to think of other men getting off to your wife's sexy photos...?
Sorry my son made the weirdo comment, he was just messing around and being goofy....
Wow! I read the original Post & was going to reply the posters Question to the "Females" ..it even had a question mark beside.... thoughts... inviting females to post just that there thoughts.. on a simple question .. would you let your husband post erotic photos of you or not followed by thoughts? that clearly meant females post your opinion on this subject... but reading just a few post in it became clear .."Dont post on this certain thread unless you agree & are ALL for your husband posting your pics " ..
Should have made that clear in the original post & asked for Ladies input who ONLY agree with this ...to avoid all the defense & arguing around the females who thought they could actually reply to this thread as they were asked to voice there opinion .. glad I didnt go ahead & reply it without reading it all..
Well, we all know that opinions are like a**holes...everyone has one and as long as it's attached to a attractive FEMALE butt, I want to see.
I can understand why a lot of women would be put off by this, especially if they are having issues in their own lives where the husband looks at or uses porn...that can be painful. No man should cause his lady to feel low self-worth...
Maybe that comes down to the age old question...why does a man want to look at porn or other women with lust in his eyes when he has a beautiful wife that is willing to and has shared her all with him?
Variety, fantasy, addiction, illness...though I'm not too keen on the last two because viewing and abusing porn is a choice, not a disease. But for the majority of men...it's an animalistic tendency that overrides their sensibility and they don't have the clarity that is needed to see how that urge or compulsion affects their spouse or GF.
Everything we do, can do, might do, will do...doo-doo...has the capability and ability to hurt someone, somewhere. Can't live life worrying about what consequences will be for someone because you said something out loud, made a gesture, a noise, a comment...whatever...if that were the case, then no one could or would ever leave the house.
Protect, take care of and love the people who are around you, who you need and who need you. They are what matter the most...
And if someone wants to post dirty pictures of his wife on a website for millions of people to see...then he can do so...as long as she has given him permission. If it spices up their love life and keeps it fresh and interesting...good for them. We all need some variety in life and in our relationships...some people find it by having a bottle of wine, a old movie and making love by the fireplace...others find it by letting others see their nakedness.
Lavender, wellt hat was the initial point, I have no problem with people disagreeing.
If you posted. No I would not do this, because of your personal beliefs. That to me is a great answer and a very valid one.
This is not for everyone, as I said, 90-95% of women would not do this for various reasons.
The first few posts by Mommybean and Humpty were Ok and Mommybean even gave a clear reason why, I told her my wife has them as well and I love them, because she is my wife. I see my wife's beauty, there is not a bad looking part of her body in MY eyes. Maybe she feels she is not good looking, but I think she is better looking then most playboy models, because she is a real woman a mother and a career person, she is a truely a beautiful person.
I was then told rather rudely I was degrading my wife. All they had to say was no and why it was not for them, I simply replied to those items that were posted towards me, some I didn't bother to, not worth my fingers.
Nightshade, well I am all about switching things up...
While in college my wife recieved many flowers, candies, and other gifts from me.
We often go on romantic dates, I took her on a dinner cruise around lower manhattan (NYC) another time I Bought her a fancy dress, had a limo pick us up, we went to a expensive dinner then a broadway show to see her favorite actor in a play, then we had a hotel room and went home the next day.
Our Social experiment that we played had fun, but she also recieved a Spa treatment and Chocolate covered strawberries and Champaigne in our hotel suite when we were done in the casino.
Romance is what you make of it, sometimes we have walks on the beach or picnics under the moonlight.
Othertimes, we are on the very naughty side.....
You can't be good 100% of the time, Sometimes it is good to be naughty with your spouse and ad some excitement....then to be naughty with someone else.
A good thrill is a good rush....being a bit naughty is good for a marriage...in my eyes, and seems to work for us.
My DH was 36, I was turning 30 that fall. We got pregnant with DS23 on our honeymoon, on purpose...dh's first child. DH said: "I am 36, I want a baby, now....". And being the pleasing wife I was, I stood downwind...
I have a now photo, but only a candid. We will have 25th anniversary photos done at our vows renewal in July 2010. I think I will see if we can go to the same exact dock, same time, and take a new photo! THAT would be so fun!
Wow, I just thought: I MAY have been pregnant in THAT photo! !! and didn't even KNOW it yet!