Re: My husband and I are growing apart
KALLI - I feel rather 'old' to even be entering this site, but I have read many threads to try and help me with what I am going through. All I can offer is that if you are unhappy now - please try to resolve it together WITH your husband.
If you have done everything you can to be happy together and it is not going to work, then be blessed that you are young enough to start again.
Please don't do what I did (for the last 10 years of my 25 year relationship / 17 year marriage to my husband) and compromise or hide your feelings, or accept it is 'your lot' - for the sake of avoiding confrontation with your husband or saving face to others outside your marriage.
Believe me - it doesn't work !!! All those negative feelings will eventually come back to rear their ugly head 10-fold. They are real feelings, and need to be addressed within your marriage WHEN they happen... but in a way that is not undermining or putting him down. Afterall, he is not your enemy - he is the person you married, so you need to express what it is that you want from the marriage, and be prepared to accept that by communicating your needs with him - you also need to be open to him communicating his needs from you.
What you need to find is a happy space where you can both meet each others' needs - while perhaps compromising on things that can't be changed.
If I could live my life over again - I would have been true to myself when I had the 'gut feeling' my marriage was in trouble, and confronted it honestly and openly then.
I was afraid of talking to my husband - so I never got to express what I felt, nor heard from him what he wanted from me.
Anyway, Good Luck - but the most important thing is to TRY and communicate your needs / wants / desires to your hubby without yelling or arguing... and be prepared to listen to him also.