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Old 04-18-2013, 10:25 AM   #1 (permalink)
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As we become more attached to the net it seems 1 in 3 couples meet through the net. However, is this seen as a sad state of affairs by others especially the older generation who are alien to the net and computers.

Question is do you ladies view men who date through the net less of a man than a guy who has the balls to approach you while doing the shopping?

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As we become more attached to the net it seems 1 in 3 couples meet through the net. However, is this seen as a sad state of affairs by others especially the older generation who are alien to the net and computers.

Question is do you ladies view men who date through the net less of a man than a guy who has the balls to approach you while doing the shopping?

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call me crazy but the quality of men who have come up to me in the past while I'm minding my own business trying to run errands or whatever is VERY low in my view.

I'll take an online flirtation quicker than some random guy trying to chat me up while I'm buying dog food or trying to find the right pair of jeans for myself.
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And I don't consider putting a random female on the spot who is just out by herself enjoying the day shopping or doing things as a ballsy move.I find it invasive and obnoxious.
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Old 04-18-2013, 10:33 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I don't see it as sad at all. It's an opportunity to get to talk to someone, learn a bit about them to find out if they hold your interest enough to actually spend time with them.

I do think some safety practices should be used - meet in a public place the first few times. Don't give too many details until you know someone a little bit better, etc.
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I don't see it as sad at all. It's an opportunity to get to talk to someone, learn a bit about them to find out if they hold your interest enough to actually spend time with them.

I do think some safety practices should be used - meet in a public place the first few times. Don't give too many details until you know someone a little bit better, etc.
How is that any different than a random stranger you meet one night in a bar, or grocery store, or library? Common sense is a good idea no matter where you initially connect.

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How is that any different than a random stranger you meet one night in a bar, or grocery store, or library? Common sense is a good idea no matter where you initially connect.

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I don't think it IS different but in my line of work, I see where trust is built over the internet because the communication is spread over time and people forget that they really don't 'know' the other person.

We had a rash of people victimized last year via dating sites where they had spent 6+ months talking to men/women thinking they were all real and legitimate. Come to find out, they were all the same person in a different country looking to scam them.

Because such a long time period had passed, these idjits had let their guard down and given the fraudster a LOT of personal details.
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No, not sad. I know many quality men who are using OLD.
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Don't rule the older crowd out completely on computer stuff. A few years ago I saw a 92 year old man in the MAC store buying more accessories for his computer.

However, at this point in my life I don't care where I meet people--cyberspace or in person. My chances are probably slim either way. I live in rural area. For some reason people just don't randomly show up at large rural gardens or pastures.
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Too many people, men and women, utilize OLD to call it sad
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Question is do you ladies view men who date through the net less of a man than a guy who has the balls to approach you while doing the shopping?
Internet dating is personally NOT for me. I'ts not something I've ever done nor will I ever do. I enjoy meeting people organically.

HOWEVER, many people are into it, men and women alike.

I say if people are into it, more power to them. It's just not not something that appeals to me.
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And I don't consider putting a random female on the spot who is just out by herself enjoying the day shopping or doing things as a ballsy move.I find it invasive and obnoxious.
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Old 04-18-2013, 03:36 PM   #12 (permalink)
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The internet is an avenue to meet, talk and know people all over the world. This provides opportunity that may not be possible for some of us. People with disabilities or those who may not find it possible to go out and meet people may benefit from internet dating. For me, the internet may be a good start but if one wants to be seriously involved and know the other person deeply, it would be good to meet in person.
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Old 04-18-2013, 04:01 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Actually, as a single woman, I really like being able to grocery shop, go to yoga/gym, skiing, etc. without being hit on.

It also keeps conversations that don't have to do with dating/sex/establishing a relationship, to whatever topic they started on.

And the workplace is 'safer' too, from sexual banter and approaches, as well as the library.

I've definitely seen a trend since OLD has become more popular.

It seems to be a premise now that if you want to date, you will put yourself out there in the clearly designated area for dating...bars, singles dances, singles meetups, and appropriate internet sites for whatever it is you're looking for.

If someone wants to know if you're available for dating, all they need to do is find out approximate age and locale and then search...and they can find out more about you what you like and don't like, and make a decision about whether to approach. It saves a lot of hassle. Also embarrassment irl.

I think it's a good thing.
In other areas as well. I was able to access information and some of it anecdotal, in order to correctly pinpoint my son's tethered spinal cord problem and his thyroid issue. I've also quickly been able to research apartments and surrounding neighborhoods (police records/crime reports) and also do background searches (like the guy I almost worked for and dated briefly.)

I also like to look at menus of restaurants and decide which I'm going to visit, and read the reviews, when they're open, what else is around them, etc.

Same thing with colleges, movies, books, lodging when traveling...

It's just another important decision. It gives people a much bigger selection pool to choose from as well, and I think knowing what is out there factors into feeling secure about your decision...understanding that time comes into play as well, it's not as though the selection pool is static. No choice is still a choice, at any given time.

Essentially, not sad.
It will be a sad sad day when catcalls are made to be illegal though.

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Old 04-18-2013, 04:12 PM   #14 (permalink)
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There is no such thing as internet dating.

Well one exception being a couple that never meets, never talks on the phone, and has communications only through their computers.

The topic of this thread is really "real life dating with people that you contact via the internet".

For what that might be worth.

My 2 cents? Meeting people over the internet and arranging first dates is an efficient use of state of the art technology.

Nothing sad about it at all. As long as you do make connections that graduate to real life encounters.

What's sad are the people that sit home alone in front of their computers all the time playing silly games or chatting with people they're never going to meet.
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To me sad is staying home alone...wishing you were out being social.

Internet dating is just another tool that can be used or abused.

Just play it safe... don't date the crazies...meet in public if you not sure of their craziness!

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