Re: Well she admitted it, now what?
I don't want a wife who refrains from an affair only because her "guy" happens to be in the dog house. If she wants to be somewhere else, that's where I want her, too. I wouldn't rat the guy out to his old lady. Unless he was one of my close friends, I probably wouldn't even assault him. This man hasn't taken anything the OP's wife hasn't offered freely. Get her to make a decision...you or other men. If her decision is "you", it comes with 100% complete transparency and if she gets caught even thinking about another guy, her butt hits the concrete. If her decision is "you", it comes with an agreement to attend marriage counseling. It's a little early to talk about forgiveness. The OP had to drag her, kicking and screaming, to tell the truth. Right now, I see zero evidence that she's even interested in staying married. Whether two people are screwing each other in their minds over the internet or in person in your bed, what's the real difference? Isn't the betrayal the same? While they were clicking away at the keyboard to each other, if your wife had magically popped into the other guy's presence, would she have fought him off? I'm guessing not. In that case, the only thing keeping your wife from full blown adultary was "opportunity". She would have been willing, he would have been willing. The bed doesn't care who's on it.