Re: marriage vows, to love, honor and OBEY?
Most people take that out of context....
"For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body."
I was concerned with this when I got married in last winter and my minister said that we don't "obey" so much as if our husbands love us as church loved christ then we will in turn treat them well and support them in all things - it is cyclical - if we are only expected to do the obey part (which is what is always brought up - the whole lay down your life for her part hardly ever is) then it doesn't work.