Re: he won't propose-I'm heartbroken
In poker, or other gambling or risk related activites there is something called "Going All In" - you place everthing you have left on a bet, or stock, or stock derviative in the hope that the cards will fall right for you on the next hand and you will regain both your losses and also win the prize you orginally desired. If you lose the game is over.
In regard to your desire to be married to this gentleman you are in this postion now - you have to go "All In". You frankly have little left to entice him with, your age is a huge negative and he is used to you sexually after 5 years (sex is routine at best). By "Going All In" I am refering to completely breaking the relationship off, no dating, no sex, no phone calls (change all of your phone numbers), and leaving no perception of "hope" for him that he will ever be in a realtionship with you again. You must also date other men, or at least lie to him about meeting somebody else.
With your current situation and age this tactic poses no risk to your chances of being married to this man. If he ever has any intention of marrying you it will force his hand - he will find a way to communicate this to you, he needs you, he cannot live without you, he wants to marry you. If he never had any intention of marrying you he will not pursue you and you will have your answer. It is just that simple.
If he should agree to marry you do not, I repeat, do not, chase after your schoolgirl dreams (and sense of female entitlement) of having a large, elaborate wedding. These events take time, cause stress, and will give him an opprotunity to reconsider and come to his senses. You must go for the quick "Vegas Style" wedding - it is just a legally binding as the big affairs. Once you have him on the hook do not waste any time reeling him in.......
Now you may say "But Eternal Bachelor I want him to want to marry me; I don't want to trick him into doing this - he may end up unhappy he married me"..........My reply is as follows - all men eventually end up unhappy they married; it is only a matter of when, not if. Your future husband will simply have that realization sooner than most but the end result is the same for all married men. He maybe unhappy, trapped, and miserable but you will have the husband you seek.
The time for action is now Polly, its time to put feminisum aside and to dust off the old ways used by women of past generations to trap a husband; break it off, change your phone number, play hard-to-get and really try to keep those legs crossed.............
Last edited by EternalBacheor; 09-27-2009 at 10:12 PM.