09-19-2009, 03:08 PM
Join Date: May 2009
| | I can't trust him; he can't trust me
Just here to vent...
I won't go into details but, over the 24 years that we've been together, my husband's done MUCH to destroy my trust in him (or ability to trust him in the future).
Sadly, it appears that I've broken a trust with him, too. I've become an "overreactor" - since so many things he's told me (or more likely, I have found out and confronted him on) have been stupid, or bad, or dangerous, or scary -- I tend to overreact to EVERYTHING he tells me.
Today, he started to tell me a story about something a friend of his did that ticked him off. He stopped, mid-sentence, said "Never mind" and walked away.
It was rude.
But I know it was because he WANTED to tell me (to share with me), but he knew I'd get mad, or side with the friend, or act like I thought he was being dumb -- because that's the reaction that so many of his stories (justifiably) elicit from me.
But it made me sad to realize that he feels he can't share with me. One more wedge between us, and this one's my fault.