It's me again. I guess I am becoming a regular now. There was a little incident that happend the other day and I feel like my husband is lashing out on me. He found out somethings about his sister and he was not too happy about it and he was highly embarrased. Now, he is flipping it and saying I am judgemental and that I am keeping secrets about his siter. However it was not my place to say these things to him.
Today I went to the store to pick up something and I decided to turn around and come home. He did not know I was home so he was in the bathroom talking bad about me to his friend. That I am judgemental, that he feels like he always gets the short end of the stick, that I act like I am so perfect and a virgin on and on, things I have heard before when we have argued. I stood there until he opened the door and he was caught. So to be manly with his friend he continued to complain so I started to argue with him back. I could tell that the friend was trying to calm him down. Now I am fuming and I feel like I hate my husband. I can't seem to see the good things right now and I am sick of it. Of course there are more good days then bad days. However, he is very critical and he tries to be a bully but I don't back down and he hates that. I don't like this one second you love me one secound you hate me. We have gone to counseling a couple of years back but the problem has always remained. Now don't get me wrong it's not like this all the time but he is very immature and he feels like when he talks he is saying how he feels, which is putting me down. Which is ok to him.
Now if I was to analyze my own situation. I would tell my self that your husband is immature and insecure. That I need to communicate more and that we need more counseling.
My husband is one of those men who will not go back to counseling because he feels like there is nothing wrong with him. Communication just leads to fights because he always drags the the old stuff. Accusations of what I did in the past, which I really did not do.
At this point I just feel hopeless. I really don't know what to say.