Re: Should I give up or keep on trying?
You might not think it's right to "expect" him to change, but I think it's fair to give it a chance. I never understand how people "fall out of love" but really don't want to try to put it back! You don't start a fire by staring at a bundle of sticks. You start it by getting up, collecting the sticks, putting a little fluid on it, and setting it ablaze. Then you have to stoke that fire, add more sticks and logs, keep the flame burning. If you aren't actively doing anything to add more excitement, maybe you should try that!
I say before you just give up on 11 years, you try new things! Go on a cruise, a road trip, something fun. Start a new thing, like with my sister-in-law and her husband, after they went through a year-long separation, they started up a weekly bonfire with their kids in the backyard. Maybe you could find a video game that you could both get into. A book series. Or you could both keep reading and video games, respectively, as a private pleasure for your alone time!