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Originally Posted by Dr.betrayed 
But somewhere bottom in my heart lies a concern.... is he doing this for his parents,or his image? or is it really for me? Did he realize his mistake?
How do i know?
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Seems like its coming back again.
On 4th, He promised his mom he would make her proud. He said he will be a good husband. He said he will try to break his friendship with the other guy.
On 7th, He went to the counselor, to share his problems and seek her advice in order to rebuild the trust between us.
He told me the friendship is over last week.
I was in the process of healing myself, and but he was keen on getting physical. Seeing the changes in him, I surrendered to his physical need, even though I wasn't willing. But that night I had a dream that I got pregnant and was crying out aloud. I should actually call it a night mare.
I realized i was not ready for relationship. He is into a lot of debts and I have no job. Also I am having trust problems with him. At this stage, What if the contraception failed?
Next day I told him about my dream and also told him I am not comfortable with our night incident. He did not reply, but didnot take any initiative for two nights after that. But yesterday he tried it again. He clearly mentioned he only wanted show his love by holding me in his arms, I agreed. But noticed he was working his way again.
I didnot push him away, but he felt I pushed him away. So he got insulted and turned his back to me. I did not understand what was wrong? I asked him but he did reply. In the morning he turns the blame on me that I didnot explicitly tell him, I am interested sex. That I am playing with his emotions.
When I tried to explain, he says the counselor told him he is at no fault. I should have understood his friendship. I should have understood the circumstances. I simply could not understand what circumstances led him to dishonor me?
How could the counselor say so?
His parents, my parents, me, his sister, everyone felt that he was wrong. Choosing "culprit" friend over "victim" wife???
He says I should not have spoken about this issue with the family. Now his image is tarnished. And so it's all my fault...
Is he not answerable to the family if he is ruining my life? Is he not answerable to god atleast?
Re: do you think husband has the right to share our "private" incidents with his guys 
At the very least it is comforting that His mom and dad understand where you are coming from.This may make it sink into his head that he was destroying your trust in him and undermining the relationship.
