Survivor wife, thanks for replying. Yeah, I had an idea of her spending habits, I suppose it was more of a rethorical question. It was the grocery store that probably took a bulk of the funds. Being a chef, she was constantly stocking our fridge with gourmet eats.. But it was always too much food, and we would end up going out a lot on top of that, so half the food would go bad before we could eat it. That gets really frustrating to watch exotic fruits and veggies just rot away because you can't use them fast enough.
Same way in my house w/ my STBXH, for similar reasons. I don't waste (nearly as much) food now. Another positive change I've been trying to change my habits since he left.
Fem, I know guys like that too. Even though I'm a techie, I tend to wait to get toys until they're a model behind, or skip a model altogether. I try to be frugal. For instance my iPhone 4 was initially provided by my workplace, and they pay the monthly plan. I've had it for well over two years now. Lots of people at work switched to the 4s and then the 5 out of their own pockets. I have decided to wait until the 5s or the 6 comes out. Mainly because I want 4g.
I'm like you, though I'm an Android girl. I bought the Galaxy S the week the Galaxy S2 came out, and I only upgraded to the S3 right before the S4 was released. I love it and it does what I need, and I won't replace it for a long while. The only reason I even upgraded to the S3 was because 1) I wanted 4G, and 2) They finally released Instagram for Android, but it wouldn't work on the S1 and would crash the S2 (from what other users told me) -- so I waited as long as I possibly could
My STBXH also had NO concept of money at all. Before we were together, he was paid twice a month, and like clockwork, 3-4 days before payday he was overdrafting his bank account. When he left that job, I took over the finances (a year before we married), and he started just signing over his paychecks to me. When he started bartending, and he would bring home cash, he was always like, "whoa! I'm making so much money!" and just wanted to spend it, because he couldn't think far ahead to say, maybe I shouldn't spend any of this because rent is due in two weeks, and these other bills are coming up... so I started depositing it as quickly as possible. I didn't want to put him on an allowance; I wanted him to learn how to be responsible. So I said he could take out of his earnings what he felt he needed for spending money, but once it was deposited, it was off-limits; but if his spending was affecting our finances and ability to save and pay bills, he would have to cut back. So what does he start doing? He starts hiding money, so he can have rainy day fun money - while my entire paycheck is going into our shared accounts. Well, I found the money and deposited it - boy, did that p!ss him off! And he didn't understand why I was upset, even though I explained it to him very clearly. He insisted that it was an emergency fund for US, in case there was a virus/terrorist attack on the banking system, so we would have readily available cash. If so, why did he feel the need to hide it? He would give his friend a wad of cash, which his friend would then send to STBXH via PayPal, ostensibly so he could buy gifts for me without my knowledge; but most of that money was spent on 1) porn; 2) a sword and other useless crap from ebay; and 3) yet another flat-screen TV we didn't need. He stopped using the PP account over a year ago, but I wouldn't be surprised if he opened a new PP account or was hiding cash somewhere and took it with him when he moved out, considering his history.
Sorry, that was a little tangential!