Re: Chronicles of the Good Guy
I posted this in another thread but it was kind of off topic.. So I'll put it here for posterity:
Seems like a few folks have very strong feelings against "settling down" and/or getting married ever again. I honestly think we all have our own wants and desires and to each their own. Here are my thoughts on the subject, as a different viewpoint (different, not better/worse) even though we might have strayed a bit from the original thread:
I hear you in that you were so miserable in marriage that you never want to try it again. I guess our situations were different. I was happy in marriage, until the end of both. I have never cheated, but have been cheated on in both of my marriages. Part of my failure was letting myself get into a rut and wanting to believe that I could "fix" things and keep things hunky dory. I can see now that all I was doing was staying in a sort of fog of my own, and not truly dealing with things that needed dealing with. It may not make sense to everyone, but the whole #3 thing rings very true to me.
I for one am a fan of marriage, or partnership, or whatever. I eventually want "the one" who I can travel life's path with. Have I chosen wrongly in the past and let my boundaries get trampled? Ab-so-fvcking-lutely. I am vowing to do better in the future. I don't NEED someone else to make me happy, but I WANT to share this life with a companion. I am a loyal person. I enjoy having someone else to talk to about how my day went and hear about theirs. I enjoy the security of having a person I love around when I need some physical "language of love" type love. Like holding hands. Yep, I'm that guy who likes holding hands. In public. Get used to it.
TOO LONG DID NOT READ VERSION: I'm glad I found this place to learn from others and put my thoughts down on "paper". I'm glad we're all different, and it's very enlightening to hear the different viewpoints. There will be some who disagree with me and think I'm being a chump, but I'm OK with it. The lumber doesn't bother me anymore.
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