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The initiation on her part is a good sign.

Does she flirt with you? Does she touch you (on your arm, etc) while talking? Have you kissed at all?

If you are still confused as to where it's going, try to flirt with her and see her reaction.

You are still early stages but hanging out four times if there is flirting and banter going on, touching, etc, winky-faces, then it sounds like you are on your way to datingville with this woman.

But if she isn't doing any of that stuff, it could be you're in the Friendzone...
Yes, there's some touching, flirting, laughing, walking arm in arm. I gave her a peck on the cheek after our second and third dates. Going to move in for the kill (lol, lips) the next time and see how she reacts.
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Oh, and the art museum next Friday just became the 5th date. The 4th will be this weekend. She asked me to come over to her house to help her with a computer issue. (she knows I'm in IT) I wonder if the "computer issue" is all she wants to do? Hmmmm.... ;-)

It felt good say "I can't on Saturday because I'm going camping with buddies, but I'm free Sunday." I didn't change my plans for her, just let her know when I was free. I am loving this new me.

Anyways yeah, this afternoon I have an offsite meeting with the other manager in my group and our boss, then shooting some guns out on his property. Then tomorrow D7 goes with her mom in the morning and I'm off to help set up for the bonfire and camping tommorow. It's shaping up to be a fantastic weekend!
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If this "computer problem" ends up being something that most people would have trouble with then perhaps she really does just want you to come and fix it.

If it turns out to be something simple that most people could fix themselves then there's a good chance it's just an excuse to get you over so she can be ravaged by the GG.
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If this "computer problem" ends up being something that most people would have trouble with then perhaps she really does just want you to come and fix it.

If it turns out to be something simple that most people could fix themselves then there's a good chance it's just an excuse to get you over so she can be ravaged by the GG.
Hah! Love it T. But can she handle the GG? That is the question..
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Hah! Love it T. But can she handle the GG? That is the question..
Good question! Don't break her dude.
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Did I get stood up?

Everything was going as planned this weekend. Shooting guns Friday night was a GREAT way to blow off some steam after a long week. And though it was a lot of hard work on Saturday, we got set up for the bonfire and it went off without a hitch. Through the day on Saturday S (the girl) and I texted a few times, and everything seemed normal. On Sunday morning I packed up my tent and was headed back home to get cleaned up and over to her house. I even got a text from her "what time are you headed my way?" I called her back since I was driving and told her it would be about noon. Then she says "I need to push it to later today since I have a thing to do at 2 oclock with roommate. What time do you have to pick up D7?" I told her between 7-8PM. So she says OK, I'll call you when we're done. I figured she'd probably call at 3 or 4 oclock for me to come over. So 3 rolls around, then 4. I had already gotten unpacked and cleaned up, and didn't want to do any yard work or anything to have to get cleaned up again, so I did relaxed and bit and did laundry while I watched TV. Then 5 came and went. then 6 came and went.
At 6:30 I texted her to say "everything going OK?"
S - "yes, just now headed home, sorry this took longer than I thought."
GG - "I only have an hour until I needed to leave to go get D7. Do you want me to come over for a bit until then?
S - "No its OK"
GG - "K, another time then"
S - "Yes, sorry"

I was a bit miffed that I had waited around all afternoon. I probably shouldn't have let that get in the way of getting things done around my house, but I was excited to see her and since we were on a shortened timeframe anyway, I wanted to just be ready to walk out the door when she called. I'm not sure what her thing at 2PM was, but wouldn't it have been courteous after the first couple hours had rolled by to call and let me know we might need to reschedule? I don't know why but I feel like I got stood up. Maybe I'm over thinking it.
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Yes it would have been courteous to call you. She knew your schedule.

Actually, I find it sort of rude the way she handled it.

Thats just my opinion though.
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She asked me to come over to her house to help her with a computer issue.
Hehe. A "computer issue" has never sounded so sexy!

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At 6:30 I texted her to say "everything going OK?"
S - "yes, just now headed home, sorry this took longer than I thought."
GG - "I only have an hour until I needed to leave to go get D7. Do you want me to come over for a bit until then?
S - "No its OK"
GG - "K, another time then"
S - "Yes, sorry"
I'm not feeling this. She was rude for doing that to you. I say NEXT her. Unless she comes tries to make it up to you. But SHE should make it up to you, don't go out of your way to contact her.
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Sounds like you were stood up mate. If she was really keen she would have made herself available and if that wasn't possible she should be offering up an apology and a good excuse.

Play along and have fun with this one but don't invest too heavily. If something develops great. If not you'll be fine.

It really hasn't been that long since you stepped off the roller coaster. Getting a few dates so quickly just proves that the GG has market value.
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Thanks all. I'm going really slowly here. It's nice to have someone to chat with if nothing else. I think we're still on for Friday art museum.

Thanks for the compliment T12! Market value, I've never thought about myself that way!
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NEXT!! Very little contact all week.. So I texted her yesterday about the date tonight, to see if she had already gotten her ticket for the exhibit. She made up a lame excuse that she needed to work on homework (on a Friday night? That you had set up for us?), and wanted to reschedule to "another time" since the exhibit would be there until January. Nope, next.
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Love this GG. I have been cheated on and pretty much had my trust in people shaken to its core but I refuse to be jaded by it. I hope to someday work through those issues and try again. Whether its a long term relationship or a second marriage, one thing I know for sure is I don't want to end up growing old alone. I want to find a decent man to spend the rest of my life with.
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NEXT!! Very little contact all week.. So I texted her yesterday about the date tonight, to see if she had already gotten her ticket for the exhibit. She made up a lame excuse that she needed to work on homework (on a Friday night? That you had set up for us?), and wanted to reschedule to "another time" since the exhibit would be there until January. Nope, next.
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GG,

Your value on the dating market is high. You have a good job. You are a nice guy but less of one now in the positive sense of not being too nice. The woman who wanted her computer fixed probably was planning to take you to bed but chickened out. There could be reasons for her decision.

You should not let on that you feel belittled. You are too cool and strong to be miffed by it. Do not chase her. Go to art museum and be yourself. Listen if she wants to talk. Have a few subjects of conversation ready.

You can even joke with her. If you think things are going well put a move on her in the museum. Good place to make out.

Having worked in IT for so long, you have surely picked up some people reading skills. Did you ever notice that some people at work are really nice when they want their computer fixed but hardly make eye contact when their laptop is humming?

You need to apply the same common sense to dating.

Oops, didn't see that she cancelled. Forget her.
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Yep... NEXT.

Still early days mate. You've got plenty of time to find the one that makes you the happiest.

Does your daughter spend much time with her mother? Wondering if that might be a good time to go to meet up groups?
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