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Old 08-28-2013, 09:24 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Men: Do you like when a woman initiates contact?

I brought this up in another thread but no one answered.


Do you men like it when a woman initiatees the first contact? Like, Hello or We should hang or just anything really?

Women have been taught for eons that a man should initiate contact because it's not lady-like to be the first initiator.

Well, what do you think?

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Old 08-28-2013, 10:09 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Default Re: Men: Do you like when a woman initiates contact?

That would depend on several things like setting, social company, etc.

Generally speaking, I wouldn't mind one bit if a woman said hello or made a casual remark to me first. Just to get the ball rolling.

I would rather be the one to ask out on a date or to "just hang" though.
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Old 08-28-2013, 10:16 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Default Re: Men: Do you like when a woman initiates contact?

Ok so if she says hello first, reaching out, then you would ask her out (if you are attracted)?

And why/what would it take for your to ask her out?

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I would rather be the one to ask out on a date or to "just hang" though.
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Old 08-28-2013, 10:19 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Default Re: Men: Do you like when a woman initiates contact?

Yes, I like it. It demonstrates that she has confidence, knows what she wants and has the ability to act on it. I wish more women would do this. My daughter has done it and she hasn't had a refusal or knowingly negative reaction to my knowledge.
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Default Re: Men: Do you like when a woman initiates contact?

I used dating sites. After unsuccessfully trying to initiate contact (it never worked out for whatever reason, despite apparently being ideal matches and fitting all their stated criteria), I made sure my profile was good and then let women initiate contact.

That worked very well. Of course, many such contacts went nowhere beyond a few emails. Every one I eventually met/dated had first shown some interest in me, including my wife.

So, yes, I liked it when women initiated, and I respect them for not being passive in the dating process.
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Default Re: Men: Do you like when a woman initiates contact?

I do think it is an age dependant trait though. Even though it seems to be mostly acceptable to young people in this area, there are lots of people my age (50s) who are very traditional and don't approve of the way society is changing.

So it depends upon what you want. Are you looking for dates for fun or filtering for a relationship? If you're filtering for a relationship you might want to be more conservative so you don't scare away a conservative guy. Otherwise if you're about fun and spreading good will to those you run into wether or not you will ever run into them again, then do it and may the Kharma be with you!
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Absolutely! In this day and age, it's perfectly acceptable. Knowing what clods us men can be around a woman we're interested in, it would help if you ladies would recognize we're not taking the hint and move in on us. LOL!

Just yesterday I had a bried encounter at a grocery store with a pretty lady and after I was in my car leaving, I realized I had missed an oppotunity and she was apparently wanting to chat or something. DOH! I hate it when that happens!
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I do think it is an age dependant trait though.
Yeah I could see that. Older people can be a bit more conservative/traditional.

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Otherwise if you're about fun and spreading good will to those you run into wether or not you will ever run into them again, then do it and may the Kharma be with you!
Hehehe. What does THAT mean? (The Kharma).

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I used dating sites. After unsuccessfully trying to initiate contact (it never worked out for whatever reason, despite apparently being ideal matches and fitting all their stated criteria), I made sure my profile was good and then let women initiate contact.

That worked very well. Of course, many such contacts went nowhere beyond a few emails. Every one I eventually met/dated had first shown some interest in me, including my wife.

So, yes, I liked it when women initiated, and I respect them for not being passive in the dating process.
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Just yesterday I had a bried encounter at a grocery store with a pretty lady and after I was in my car leaving, I realized I had missed an oppotunity and she was apparently wanting to chat or something. DOH! I hate it when that happens!
You will just have to make an effort to chat her up next time.

Interesting comments from you men so far. I was very curious because seriously, women have been told forever that it's not proper to approach or talk to a guy first/initiate contact. You guys are proving that theory wrong.
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Hehehe. What does THAT mean? (The Kharma).
it means I can't type. It's supposed to be Karma, good karma. I've found that I like to spread around good will when I'm in public places. There was a time in my life when I was depressed and was generally angry. That caused angry feeling to head my way more often. When I spread good will, it makes others feel good and it often disarms them if they are grumpy/ angry. It seems like I get a lot of good karma these days and perhaps that's why.
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yes.
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Default Re: Men: Do you like when a woman initiates contact?

Not a man, but I can tell you from experience that if you're a girl like me who knows exactly what I want and I have the confidence to back it up, guys are super receptive to being chatted up. Not all of them, but if a guy is too intimidated by me, we probably wouldn't get on well enough anyway. So if you are feeling it, you should definitely try it out! Just use the same rules as when a man talks to a woman. If things to well and you ask him to hang out, he will probably be taken aback but most guys I have talked to liked that I did that, because I guess a lot of other women just want to be chased and turn it into a game. Not into games over here. I haven't dated in a long time so I'm not really familiar with what single women want haha.
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It would make me deeply suspicious.
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Default Re: Men: Do you like when a woman initiates contact?

Being a somewhat conservative guy I would probably like to be the one to make the first move but it would be awesome if the lady broke the ice by initiating the contact. I can talk to anyone but I tend to shy away from approaching women because I know other idiots are probably out there hitting on them. I just feel stupid.

But of course I would make an exception for you, Jelly!!!! LOL!!!!!
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Default Re: Men: Do you like when a woman initiates contact?

Well, duh!
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Default Men: Do you like when a woman initiates contact?

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Ok so if she says hello first, reaching out, then you would ask her out (if you are attracted)?

And why/what would it take for your to ask her out?



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If attracted and conversation developed easily.

Example, I was at a grocery store with my three kids. At the fish counter (not kidding) a woman hit on me. Offered to have me over for dinner. She was younger, probably mid thirties (I'm early forties). I declined. She was awkward and not very aware of my situation. I had my kids right there.

On the other hand, the woman I'm seeing now kissed me, just out of the blue, while out with some mutual friends.

Choose your target wisely. Know your surroundings and be aware of the situation.

This is not a yes or no question. It can work but it can backfire. Not unlike how it is for us guys.
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