09-04-2013, 08:37 AM
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Divroce started 3 years ago. Final about 1 year ago. I did not want it. I wasn't the happiest of spouses but thought staying the course would have been worth it in the long run. She did not agree. She had been having an affair. My record up to that point was spotless. A squeaky clean husband.
When divorce started I was approached by a coworker (married) who told me how upset she was that we were never single at the same time, she always wanted to date...One thing led to another and over the last 3 years we are on and off, sneaking around. It isn't right and we regularly say we are stopping but a few weeks later we are meeting after work and it starts again. I don't think she will leave current husband even though I don't think she is 100% happy (is anyone?) So this is doomed.
I also go back and forth with an old girlfriend from school days. She is married too. Complains about husband yet there is no reason to think she will leave.
During all this I have dated a few very nice quality ladies but can't commit (or don't want to) due to all the distractions.
It isn't sex. Sexual relations with other (legit) ladies were always healthy and normal. Yet I always wanted to be with either of these other two.
I know this is wrong. I know it is no way to start a real relationship. Why am I setting myself up for disappiontment (or worse?) I don't see any long term quality time with either.
Nobody that knows me would believe any of this, I would never in my life have been involved in a soap opera like this but here I am. I'm not asking what to do. I know what I should do. Cool it with everyone and allow dust to settle and figure out what I am looking for. My question is more whether or not others have had periods of behavior that was very out of character after divorce was final.