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post #166 of 177 (permalink) Old 05-19-2016, 05:19 PM
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I try to stay loyal to our Virginia wineries. If it helps, this is a horrible spring for the vineyards. We've gotten far too much rain at all the wrong times and fungus an d vine droop are threatening the crops. So I'll consider it mother nature's way of getting us all to cut back our consumption.


No, it's Gods way of telling you to try different regions.

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UPDATE: I believe I found out Triple D's place of employment in SC. Hopefully I can get the garnishment going again.

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UPDATE: I believe I found out Triple D's place of employment in SC. Hopefully I can get the garnishment going again.

Git R Dun Pluto.

He's probably turned into a.... ugh..... Clemson fan.
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Git R Dun Pluto.

He's probably turned into a.... ugh..... Clemson fan.
EEK=gawd, NO!

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UPDATE: I believe I found out Triple D's place of employment in SC. Hopefully I can get the garnishment going again.
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UPDATE: I believe I found out Triple D's place of employment in SC. Hopefully I can get the garnishment going again.


Once he gets contacted by your state he will probably think about moving again.

I hope you never need his money but I hope you never give up making him pay.



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UPDATE:

I have the child support going through the state, mostly because I knew Triple D was immediately moving out of my state and they handle out-of-state cased far cheaper than I could.

I found the name of his new employer and an address in his new state. The address is definitely not a business address, so I could only assume it is his residence. Then I called the child support office and gave them the info I tracked down. They said they would take it from there.

Yesterday a deposit was made into my account, and I thought, great, the wage-withholding order went through pretty fast. No. I received a call from the child support office saying they could not locate a business address for the employer and had not had any luck contacting Triple D. I told the nice woman that I had a deposit in my account. She looked up the records and said it was under the old wage-withholding order. She guessed it was a payment out of a severance package. No way. He admitted he was fired for cause (again). The woman said she wasn't going to touch a thing until they sort this out.

Triple D posted a picture to a friend's FB page showing him with the new GF, in the new state. So I don't know what's going on. Maybe he went back to the old employer [Unlikely since he was fired for cause-or at least that's what he told me when he said he wasn't getting Unemployment] Maybe its a payment improperly credited to my account from the old employer [if so, I know I will have to pay it back] Maybe he lied the entire time about getting fired and found a way to work under the table.[wouldn't be the first time].

The phone number he gave me when he said he lost the job is no longer working, and his siblings say they don't want to get involved in my money problems.

On a happier note, the girls and I are going off on vacation to a family wedding. I promise not to be too cynical.

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It was lovely to see so much family. My cousins I hadn't seen in over a decade, though we keep in touch-and you would have thought we'd just gotten together last week.

I tried very hard not to be cynical for the actual wedding. I failed. The couple wrote their own vows and the most commitment I heard was a promise they would walk together. Really? like a stroll down the street would keep a marriage together? Ah youth.

Triple D is still AWOL. I took a lateral position change at work that includes an increase in salary that will make up for the loss of child support plus a wee bit more if I'm careful, but it would have been nice to have the support. not to mention its the law. The CSS says they won't take him to court until its been 90 days with no payment. I'll start counting from June 23rd and see what happens.

Kids are doing great. The oldest is in DC working and protesting, and the younger one is discovering her artistic skills.

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Congrats on the salary increase, that's great! I hope you enjoy the new position.

Hope in a couple months CSS can get some money out of Triple D for you.

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No update on Triple D.

But, I have one of the best DD in the entire world.

The other evening we were texting back and forth (she's at school for the summer, working), about some family friends that were having a really hard time. During the course of our conversations she shared that she started going to a counseling center up at school and it was really helping. I was a bit nervous about what she felt she needed "help" with so I just asked if she was ok, and did we need to really talk. Her reply was she was great. She realized she had been angry since Triple D left and she was just tired of carrying it all around. She wanted someone who wasn't me to help her. She said I'm already doing everything for the family and she wanted to find her solutions without adding to my stress. I tried to tell her there's never anything I can't handle when it comes to her or his sister. She said she knows. She said she wants me to know she's working on becoming an adult, someone who sees a problem and figures out how to solve it......like I did. (tearing up now).

This is one of those days when I love being a parent.


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No update on Triple D.

But, I have one of the best DD in the entire world.

The other evening we were texting back and forth (she's at school for the summer, working), about some family friends that were having a really hard time. During the course of our conversations she shared that she started going to a counseling center up at school and it was really helping. I was a bit nervous about what she felt she needed "help" with so I just asked if she was ok, and did we need to really talk. Her reply was she was great. She realized she had been angry since Triple D left and she was just tired of carrying it all around. She wanted someone who wasn't me to help her. She said I'm already doing everything for the family and she wanted to find her solutions without adding to my stress. I tried to tell her there's never anything I can't handle when it comes to her or his sister. She said she knows. She said she wants me to know she's working on becoming an adult, someone who sees a problem and figures out how to solve it......like I did. (tearing up now).

This is one of those days when I love being a parent.
Pluto, this is simply beautiful. The best moments in parenting are when we see evidence that we did stuff right and gave our children the tools they need to handle life. She sounds amazing.
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