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post #16 of 177 (permalink) Old 10-25-2013, 12:21 PM
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If I was meeting a guy, and I knew he had kids he hadn't seen in months and wasn't supporting financially, I would NOT be saying "Hmmm, now this is someone I want to get to know better!"
RIGHT!? Or worse, even "move in together" SHEESH.

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I wonder if he even mentions the kids. Its not like they're going to drop in and ruin things for him.
I don't wish him to die an excruciatingly painful death involving maggots and wild pigs. In fact I don't wish anything that involves him anymore.
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That is really sh!tty on his part, Pluto.

You are so much better off. Seriously.
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So true.
The way he's spun his mind, he's the victim (as usual). How dare I not agree to support him while he picked up a couple OW and verbally berated us, When I think back about how it was at its worst, I really wonder why I thought I was supposed to live like that.
Going out with friends tonight to a local vineyard. It should be glorious.
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Please drink several glasses for me! That sounds so fun!
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Have a wonderful time!

I'm undecided on which pants to wear today -- smarty, fancy or sassy?
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Congrats, P2!!!

That's the biggest mystery in these situations, isn't it? What in the world makes these guys attractive to anyone, the way they are now? If I was meeting a guy, and I knew he had kids he hadn't seen in months and wasn't supporting financially, I would NOT be saying "Hmmm, now this is someone I want to get to know better!"
You'd be surprised at how many desperate lonely skanky women there are out there that would jump at any attention from a loser man like this. Some women have zero standards as long as they have a breathing body next to them to fill the gaping hole of lonliness andlow self esteem.

If I knew a guy had cheated on his wife, or GF, I would run a mile. And any stories of "oh she neglected me, she didn't give me any sex".. yada yada BS... wouldn't make an ounce of difference. A cheater is a cheater is a cheater and they will do it again to you since all they have to do is manufacture their justifications in their little heads.

Shocks me no end.
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I kept thinking he would call and ask to see the kids over Thanksgiving. Or text them and see what they are up to. We've made plans with friends and we'll have a nice time.
But still, how can a father just dump on his children like this?
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Pluto, this is just so sad! How are your kids handling it?

Your Ex is probably like my STBXH, wondering, "Why can't I just be happy?" Well, duh, when you just dump on everyone who loves you, and don't value the relationships in your life, this is what happens. Deal with it -- you reap what you sow, buddy.

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Finally, got my order signed at High Noon!



The judge called my attorney to apologize for the delay.
Now quickly, he's off my health insurance, off my life insurance and off my retirement account.
Triple D (despicable deadbeat dad) still hasn't seen the kids or paid support. I hear he's living with a new GF in another state, and not working. What in the world could someone see in him?
Pluto, so sorry about your daughter. I hope she heals quickly from her injuries.

Regarding you POS Ex, sue his sorry a$$ for the child support. File so that if he ever does get a job, they garnish his wages, take his tax return and/or take any remedies available by law to collect the child support due!!

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So sorry to hear about your daughter, I hope she is doing better now!!
I am almost in the same boat with my ex, he is basically "fun dad" now, doesn't get involved in D's life at all, but he does still take her every second weekend.
You can gaurentee his sorry azz will come crawling back to you when he realizes what he lost! Do you think its a MLC? Or just plain selfishness?
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Thanks all.

He will never crawl back. That would require he admit he was in the wrong and that would conflict with his delusion that he is the victim. He has lots of emotional/mental problems. I tried to get him help, but he just lied to the MD then quit going. You can lead a jackarse to water, but sometimes they won't drink because they believe you poisoned the water.

The kids are surviving. My older one has written her father completely off. She acknowledges that he is her biological father, but also says that he does nothing a father should and she is absolutely correct. I don't blame her since the ex literally blamed her for outing his sexting on FB and causing the divorce. That isn't at all true, but it sure didn't help. Honestly, I don't speak ill of him in from of the kids. Occasionally, I will recount a family story from our past and I always mention his part in the story, so its not as though I'm pretending he never existed.The younger DD never mentions him. Isn't that sad. They haven't seen him in seven months. He has no idea how much they were hurt by his mistreatment and now, we have peace. I suppose I should be happy we have that.
The younger one has admitted that her injuries hurt now and again but gets upset if I worry too much. I keep trying to tell her that is my job and I won't quit for anything. She's not at all self-conscious about the scars. Isn't remarkable how resilient children can be.
I've thought about suing the ex to get the back support. I'd have to go through social services at this point since all my money is gone. They would get the first $500 of anything that's recovered and at this point what is there to get. I honestly don't think he is smart enough to hide money. So I get a judgment that says he owes me. I already have a decree that says he owes me.
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Sorry to hear this Pluto2.

It's guys like this that give men a bad name.

After all the fighting I had to do, all the money and time spent trying to get the maximum time with my kids,

I just don't get people (moms and dads) like this.
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Pluto, your kids sound amazing. I hate that they have to go through this, but it sounds like they fully understand this is HIS problem, and they're not blaming themselves.

Like Ceegee, I really don't get people like your Ex. Then again, I also don't get people like my STBXH, who happens to resemble your Ex in a number of ways. There's just something in them that's broken, wired differently. And because they don't know anything different, they don't understand that anything's wrong with their behavior. There's not a whole lot you can do with that, unfortunately.

But he's the one who's losing out on this deal. He's missing out on the chance to have a relationship with his daughters, which is a shame, because they sound like great kids. He's hurting himself more than anything else.

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We had a lovely holiday with good food, good wine and very good friends. When I compare this holiday to two years ago the differences are mind-blowing. No one ran out of a room crying, no doors were slammed, everyone helped one another and laughter filled the house. This is the way people are supposed to live.
My DD is healing well, thanks for all the good wishes.

(and not a call from the ex. My DD had a friend over until 11 pm and was happily distracted)
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