Re: Two week notice
Yesterday I had several more calls from the ex that I never took. Then there was a call from a different number I didn't recognize and I answered it-it was him. The conversation went sort of like this:
Ex: My work got the garnishment papers. Why didn't you call me to work out a payment plan.
Me: We have a payment plan, you ignore it. I've been extremely patient about this.
Ex; No you haven't. You took money from me in December when you knew I didn't have much.
Me: What I know is that you said you would pay back all the arrears then, and you didn't because you said it wasn't fair.
Ex: I never fought you when you had that outrageous support payment put in the divorce papers.
Me: We followed the state guidelines.
Ex: Whatever, its outrageous. I had to give up my own place because of you. But I'm not blaming you. Maybe I should take you to court and get it changed.
Ex: I don't know what's going on in your house, but talk to D17 and get her to contact me.
Me: She's 17 and I won't force her. I resent your implication that I do anything to alienate her from you. I don't operate that way.
Ex; Oh I'm not saying your a bad mother, I've never heard you say a bad word about anyone-but she would talk to me if you did things about it.
Me: Have you tried to call her in the last month?
Ex: You need to tell her I'm a good man and she thinks I made a mistake. We both made mistakes. I want you to acknowledge that I'm a good father, I never hit my kids.
Me: You never hit the kids.
Ex: And I'm a good father. Aren't I, Aren't I Aren't I.
Me: This conversation is over. I have to go.
I really wish I had a VAR. I can't for one minute believe that he would or could get custody. The kids are too old to be forced to move to another state, his situation is so unstable, and he would never make the effort to hire an attorney and fight me. But he sure likes to waive the "going to court" flag in my face when he thinks he'll get leverage and have me back down. He admitted he probably won't see the kids this summer. Yeah, that's a good father. Maybe he'll show up at Christmas.