It was realy just me and him time together without distractions. Turkey day won't be the same without him this year. He will be with his mother in WV visiting his family there. I'll miss him.
The first holidays after my divorce, my exH took the kids and (I could not make this up) took them to Disneyland!
I swear to God! It's funny now, but at the time I was devastated because I already lost my family and home, now he wanted to take away the kids for the holidays too! After being all upset for a bit, I decided it would be a great opportunity for the kids (their one and only chance to go) so I spent my first Christmas Eve and Day after divorce alone...and my family was in another state thousands of miles away.
Soooooooo...I decided on that one day I would do what *I* wanted to do. I slept in, I told a long, hot bubble bath, I wore pajamas all day, I ate all dessert all day, and I went to church Christmas Eve. I played Christmas carols as loud as I wanted to, and I sang with them. That one was a toughish holiday but by the end of it, I had a very relaxing time and it was a little refreshing to have some "me time."
After that first one, my exH and I pretty much split holidays evenly. He had T-giving early afternoon--I went to volunteer for a noon meal at the church and then held a t-giving potluck feast for everyone who wanted to come. We lived 3 miles apart so we just drove to meet mid-turkey day.
I've been thinking of creating new traditions for just the two of us. I haven't come up with anything yet, suggestions are welcome. We as a family always picked out our X-mas tree over this weekend, things like that. It is harder with just the two of us. I'm not great at that type of thing. I know I will just miss him horribly ............
For Christmas, one of us had the kids Christmas Eve and the other Christmas Day. Both of my kids were youngish (9 and 11 I think) and so we did entirely separate "celebrations" and at my house we almost always picked a theme for movies and ordered pizza because once I asked the kids "What do you wish we did" and they wanted pizza! LOL Anyway, we would open presents, then stay in our jammies and watch movies all day--we did "Tom Hanks Day" and "Tom Cruise" and "James Bond"...the kids got to pick who would be the actor/actress or what the theme was, and then I picked out the best four or so films. For our tree, we bought first weekend of December, and every year we gave each other ornaments that either said the year or was a theme (like "all candy canes" or "all red balls") or that we made.
Some traditions we've done: Go to a public singing of Handel's Messiah. Go to the John Doan Christmas special or The Bells at the cool theater downtown. Go iceskating in Keystone the day after Christmas. Get fancy hot chocolate. Drive by the Fancy Light display houses. Visit the nursing home (even if you just pass out a candy cane). Adopt a family for charity and plan a great "secret" holiday for them. Bake cookies together. Go caroling or do a "family newsletter" together. Do an Advent Calendar (you can find those at most European shops). St. Nicholas Eve is December 5th--find out about it and celebrate. Santa Lucia Day is December 13th, the longest night of the year--on her day, a daughter rises before dawn and fixes a breakfast of special pastries and coffee for her family. She appears in their bedrooms, dressed in a white dress belted with a red sash, and wearing a wreath of greens and four (or seven or nine) lighted candles. Soooo...adapt it so that your son brings you "coffee and donuts" in bed and then you two men eat breakfast in your bed together (yeah it's crummy but so what--it's for the fun of a tradition and you can wash the sheets). Have Christmas Around the Globe, and pick a country (like this year Italy) and have Italian traditional foods, music, or Christmas greetings.
OH! We did this one year and it was a HOOT! Take 3-4 "traditional" Christmas carols and come up with new, silly words! "The calling cards said 'Gentlemen' but much to our dismay, a gang of uncouth hooligans was at our door that day, to try to sing a Christmas song and drink cider away...Oh where is the Southern Comfort, Roy? Go away boy! I need some Southern Comfort for joy!"