I was talking with an older gentleman who told me his wife cheated on him about twenty years ago. He ended up divorcing and lost a portion of his retirement. He even retired early, since his wife was seeing someone where he worked. I suppose like others, he was terribly humiliated.
He has since found it within himself to date. He talks about having a girlfriend and her "demands". He says she always wants him with her and he half-heartedly complains about it, then talks about what a nice time he had. He told me she sees other men and then seems to want him to show some jealousy. He also said he dates other women.
He asked why I would not want to do the same.
I told him that when I think about what he has to say, I feel like I would be doing the very same thing my ex-wife was doing, that I loathed.
I am late to your enquiry. I am not likely a BS.
But, having an active imagination, empathy, courage of convictions, and having a "dead certain and known" response to such a situation [infidelity], were it to happen to me, I can answer your question.
You and I both have strong values. For us, our values will not vacillate much; with reference to any future interpersonal-situation that would test those values.
We think and feel the same way in private, in outer space, in a land where we know no one, and no one knows us.
We have stubborn, ingrained strength of character.
It is simple as that.
There are many people who are flexible in all aspects of their life.
This often serves them well.....though sometimes they get served with divorce papers. Flexibility is the antithesis of Boundaries.
Kudos for your resolve!