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Old 08-06-2011, 09:50 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Hi everyone...

I initially posted on the Going Through Divorce or Separation but I think this is where I belong now.

I got my papers from Tijuana, Mexico - or so the ex claimed. He said it is legal and I insisted on him proofing it legality since he and I doesn't live - or ever been to Mexico and we got married in NY. I am doing my own research on this.

But deep down, I have been feeling and telling people that I am a divorcee. Been separated and living a single mom life for almost 2 years now. So really it's just a matter of paperwork.

I thought I have been moving on but is it normal for that pain to resurface? How about the anger? I just met him yesterday to talk about the divorce papers and confronted him that I knew about his wedding to the girl he left me for. It was so hard to stay calm but I did yet the pain + anger was boiling inside.

For you who've been thru this longer than me...please share how you cope? Thank you so much!
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Old 08-06-2011, 01:50 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Morningdew,

It is just normal for it to resurface at times. Especially when something like the papers show up. As long as the time between that happens increases, you are moving forward. I imagine it will always resurface at moments in future. You've just got to live it, let it go and keep moving forward.
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Old 08-06-2011, 10:40 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Thank you Feelingalone. That's what I plan on doing to keep moving forward and maybe instead of denying the anger to just embrace it as part of healing...I'm not sure...but thank you so much.
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morning: How can be in the middle of a divorce from you and married to the new girl? Isn't that bigamy?
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morning: How can be in the middle of a divorce from you and married to the new girl? Isn't that bigamy?
He got married in a church to the girl he had his last affair with in June 18. I was sure it was a bigamy but he insisted that the divorce was finalized in April 2011. We shall see as I am still digging the truth here but no matter what my findings would be or how this whole drama will unfold, I considered myself as a divorcee.
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Old 08-08-2011, 03:59 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Well, that is looking the truth in the eye and not flinching. Good! Stay strong. Keep your dignity. That was the only thing I hung onto during the collapse and the aftermath. That and God.

Good Luck and stay smiling. ( P.S You look so pretty in your pic! )
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Thanks Sparkles! I agree, without God I'm not sure I could get to this point at all.
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