When I first got divorced, part of my criteria for my new partner was that he was self-sufficient without any help from me and I wanted to ensure there was never a chance I'd be on the hook financially to take care of anyone else but myself and my own children.
But other than that, I wasn't picky about how much someone had. Any woman that's worried about how much money you have is probably interested in having you support her and you need to avoid women like that like the plague.
My now husband is very well off but I always pay for my half of everything...even now that we're married. I'm not interested in taking financial advantage of anyone...certainly not my husband.
A big generalisation there.
For casual dating I never cared what they earned but for a serious relationship it was/is very important that he be either a big earner and/or have a reasonable amount in assets.
Post divorce and at this stage in life one of the most important considerations for me was compatibility and financial compatibility is no less important than sexual, moral or any other issue.
Post divorce I would suggest people look for others that are in a similar situation, no matter which part of the scale you are on, low income to very high income/wealth then look for potential mates in the same financial category as you.
I agree with Holland here. BIG generalization. I am, by no means, a golddigger. I am well-educated, make a decent living, and am relatively financially stable. (I'm paying off some debt incurred during/after my divorce because adjusting was a challenge, but I'm taking care of that now.) I can take care of myself, and I choose to live my life and plan for the future as if that will always be the case, that I will always be financially independent. And I'm proud of that fact. I put myself college and grad school, which I'm also proud of. (Granted, I got a really big scholarship for college, partially based on need--see below--but the way I see it, I also earned that money, because I couldn't have gotten into that school if I hadn't done well in high school. And it was partially merit-based.)
However--it's important to me that a potential partner be financially stable and make a good living. Not because I want him to support me. Hardly. I'm am looking for someone who won't compromise MY financial stability and MY quality of life. If, financially, I am better off single than partnering with a guy because his financials are a mess, I'm going to stay single. I was married to a guy who was horrible with money, and if I had stayed with him... he would have ruined both of us financially, I'm sure of it. Or, at the very least, we would have spent the rest of our life struggling.
Growing up, I watched my parents struggle financially, on the cusp between lower and middle class. We never had fresh fruit in our house because it cost too much money. We didn't have birthday parties because it cost money. (The only reason I had a 16th birthday party is because I paid for it with money from my summer job.) I was the oldest child and I almost never had new clothes--I wore hand-me-downs from my friend Amy, who was 5 yrs older than me, and those were the hand-me-downs from her 3 older sisters. There was never money for anything, and I never heard then end of how much my sister and I cost. When I was 17 years old, my dad was laid off, and he has spent the last 20 years, going from job to job, been laid off a few more time, never making much more than half or 2/3 of what he was making at that job he lost when I was 17. They have struggled my entire life, and they will never be able to completely retire. Even when they are pulling social security, and even though they've put money aside, they will always have to work at least part-time.
Honestly, I am TERRIFIED that could become my reality if I choose a partner who isn't financially stable, who doesn't have a good career. (This definitely would have happened to me if I stayed with my XH.) If that happens, there is no safety net. My family doesn't have money. I'm not getting an inheritance from anyone.
So, YES. Financial stability, a good career, and a healthy savings/retirement account is VERY IMPORTANT to me, and I'm not ashamed of it. I don't want someone who is going to spend a boatload of money on me, but I wouldn't mind it if he wanted to spoil me a little, because I've never had anyone spoil me before. But I don't want a big-ass house or expensive cars; I'd rather keep my Fiat and have a cozy, old house. I'm happy to live modestly. STUFF won't make me happy. BUT the security aspect is very important to me, and I'm not going to apologize for that.