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post #31 of 61 (permalink) Old 09-21-2016, 12:31 PM
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You'd break up with someone if they weren't independent financially?

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This is not a market that I have reached yet, but "must like dogs!" People who like animals are more in tune with nature in my opinion, so dog haters can forget it.
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post #33 of 61 (permalink) Old 09-23-2016, 06:26 PM
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when I was doing OLD I had a different set of criteria, deal breakers for casual v's someone I would consider for a LTR.


Casual simply had to be good looking and employed.

LTR had to be an atheist or agnostic. Good looking. Intelligent. Very well off financially. White collar. Same ethnicity to me. Been married/divorced. Kids similar ages to mine. Not barrack for Collingwood (footy team).
Similar core values and morals. Amazing SOH.
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Smokers........No class........No education..........No loyalty..........Lazy........My ex.........Other than that, I'm open!
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No Tattoos.No nurses.No doctors.
I'm ok with everything else.
What's wrong with doctors?
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Dealbreakers:

1) No drugs/alcoholics/smoking

2) No infidelity

3) Must be at least reasonably fit

4) No excessive facial hair
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Oh, and.... most importantly... and based upon a short stupid relationship I had in early 2015 and a LONG relationship I had from 2007 or so until years later....

1) Don't date men who will remarry their ex-wife a few months after professing their love to me. (OMG.... biggest mistake I ever made; what a total loser)

2) Don't date men who are only separated and not DIVORCED - even if they are LEGALLY separated and even if they have lived on their own for months
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post #38 of 61 (permalink) Old 09-24-2016, 12:12 AM
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No drugs, smoking or alcohol
Health-conscious, active
Not hideous or physically extreme in some fashion
Financially stable/responsible, uses time productively, has a career
Intelligent/intellectual, likes to think/learn
Good parent, with good kids
Around my own age, or at least gets my jokes/references
Open minded, considerate, conscientious, socially conscious
Not religious, spiritual is okay
Geeky interests, not sports/celebrity obsessions
No lingering issues with exes, clearly over them
Not superficial
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Doesn't remind me of my ex, or know my ex for that matter

It's a joke with my colleagues that I won't date anyone who can't show me their police background check, credit history and bill of health. Let's just say I don't date much. At all.
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No teachers either. Highest rate of infidelity.
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No teachers either. Highest rate of infidelity.
That's not fair.

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That's not fair.


Nope.
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My biggest deal breaker, never date a woman who makes more than me.

Also never a type a personality or one who acts dominant.
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My biggest deal breaker, never date a woman who makes more than me.

Also never a type a personality or one who acts dominant.
--a woman who makes more than me..

Apparently my ex felt the same. I won't apologize for working hard and taking care of my family. His income was always unreliable. If it bothered him so much, he should have gotten his rear in gear and found a better job.

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1. Irresponsible/lazy
2. Dishonest (don't even want 'little white lies')
3. Abusive
4. Religious and/or illogical in other ways (ie homophobic, "pro-life", racist, anti-science, etc)
5. Unwilling to compromise
6. Addict of any kind (everything in moderation!)
7. Controlling
8. Expects women to fulfill traditional roles ie cooking, cleaning, etc
9. Wants more than 2 kids and/or HAS to have kids no matter what
10. Already has kids
11. Hates animals
12. No interest in travel

These are just the dealbreakers. Then of course there's a bunch more criteria he'd have to meet, more abstract to quantify; such as having a spark, being attracted to one another, being a 'good' guy, inspires me to be a better person, someone I can respect, fun to be with, enjoys a few similar hobbies, interesting to talk to, and on and on. Basically he should be my best friend. No one should be closer between us.
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Nope.
Insecure much?
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