Re: Deal Breakers
Well, I haven't thought about my deal breakers. Before I met h, I dated a guy for a little under six months who was a commitment phobe. Many is the time that I've said, I didn't know what I wanted when I came out of that relationship, but I knew what I didn't want, and that was someone who was averse to commitment.
So I don't want my "deal breakers" to be something anti-h. There were qualities and characteristics he had that I liked, including being able to debate politics and from his years in the military, share his view of the status of things in contracting and the military and how they needed to be addressed. In other words, he was smart, and he was fun to talk to.
I do think I'd want someone with recreational interests more in line with my own. When h hooked up with OW, they spent a lot of time on the lake, fishing, camping, but he never invited me to do that, so if that was an interest of his, it was a latent one, or one he developed because of her. I like going to movies and concerts and ballet and theater and opera and museums, so I'd want to share that with someone, I think. But it wouldn't be necessary. What would be important, I think, would be a real and authentic sense of what that person likes to do recreationally.
Anyway, I haven't thought about it because I'm not interested in dating, and really wary of OLD sites. But my divorce is recent, and a desire to mingle could arise at any time! So I guess I'll think about those things when the time comes. But I'm pretty sure I'll be more deliberate about it. Deep down I have a feeling I fell for h before I knew a lot of important info about him, because I was in the "love will conquer, or allow for compromise in, all" fog. Not making THAT mistake again!
Last edited by TeddieG; 01-09-2016 at 12:29 PM.