So last night I attended my first divorce group session and had an absolute ball. The past three weeks I have been trying to figure out what went wrong with my marriage of 19 yrs. i was talking with my friends that she had confided in lsst year and dug up old dirt. Then I would try and change her mind about trying to reconcile to no use. Worst few weeks of my life.
Last night I think just sitting and talking about what happened to people that haven't a clue about your life and what you have gone through makes me at least at peace. I had made things so bad between my ex and I that she said she would only dicuss subjects about the kids and nothing else. This morning I sent an email to the two people I had been getting my information from and apologized to them for what I had put them through the past few weeks and that I was going to stop and focus on today and nothing about the past. I just let it out there with some views I have about how my ex has been acting and my feelings.
At the end of the email I addressed my ex and said this email has nothing to do with you it is for me apologizing for what I ahve put them through these past few weeks and I heard you loud and clear we were done. I sent the email to the two freinds and her.
Well low a behold she responded to the email and said I disagree with some of your comments. I said sorry those are my feelings and how I see things so I'm not getting into it. It felt soooo good.
I don't want to reconcile but I do think since we have two kids involved we need to be cordial and not absolutely hate each other. I think I pulled her a little back to the middle so I accomplished my task today. Now for tomorrow until who knows when I will won't ask her stupid little questions like how's your day and let her go be who she says she wants to be and I'll continue my journey to healing.
Have a great day.
Shoeguy
Last night I think just sitting and talking about what happened to people that haven't a clue about your life and what you have gone through makes me at least at peace. I had made things so bad between my ex and I that she said she would only dicuss subjects about the kids and nothing else. This morning I sent an email to the two people I had been getting my information from and apologized to them for what I had put them through the past few weeks and that I was going to stop and focus on today and nothing about the past. I just let it out there with some views I have about how my ex has been acting and my feelings.
At the end of the email I addressed my ex and said this email has nothing to do with you it is for me apologizing for what I ahve put them through these past few weeks and I heard you loud and clear we were done. I sent the email to the two freinds and her.
Well low a behold she responded to the email and said I disagree with some of your comments. I said sorry those are my feelings and how I see things so I'm not getting into it. It felt soooo good.
I don't want to reconcile but I do think since we have two kids involved we need to be cordial and not absolutely hate each other. I think I pulled her a little back to the middle so I accomplished my task today. Now for tomorrow until who knows when I will won't ask her stupid little questions like how's your day and let her go be who she says she wants to be and I'll continue my journey to healing.
Have a great day.
Shoeguy