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post #61 of 76 (permalink) Old 10-27-2016, 05:14 PM Thread Starter
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Damn Chuck. Sorry to hear all that. Take time to grieve when the time is right.. ..for you. Not on anyone else's timetable. Part of that might be before your mom is physically gone, or not. Up to you.
I've known mom was gone as early as 2015. She just progressively got worse. In my heart, she already died. Kinda like my D back in 2012, I knew it was over but it still hurt like he!!.

Now I'm getting calls from relatives who never said hi, boo, howyas doin... until wind of mom being in very bad state. Took them until now? Guess mom has something they want?

LOL.... I always like a good fight, looks like I've got one. *eyeroll*

Stand still.... if they grab, they get thorns. Which reminds me of a great love song, "Whole lotta Rosie"

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I was summoned to the hospital after info exchanges with the doctors and supervisor of nursing. Sure enough the tumor she refused to have looked at last November is cancer. There is no need for chemo or radiation. Mom refused to take part in PT, well until I gave her a pep talk. She did quite well. This is important due to the fact the insurance will only pay for "skilled" rehab, as in wanting to get better. 2nd love has done nursing homes 25 years, I consulted her. But once she peaks and starts heading downhill, the facility will call me and give me two choices.

Either keep her at the facility which then... it will be an issue of terminal, the insurance will not pay. Then I could pay $400 a day for top of the line care. She would get the feeding tube and partially build up strength but be riddled with the spreading cancer, not to mention full on dementia. Or I could bring her home and let her die at home, hospice is covered by the insurance. No feeding tube nor cath. I know I'm one of the more freaky / kinky people but I will under no circumstances clean and wipe where I came from. But I can have private sitters (older females) who could really help me out with this. Okay... but no feeding tube, can't swallow... in other words, she would come home to starve to death. Something is really F'ed up with that picture. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

I actually thought, what would happen to her if I "claimed" to say, I can't take it anymore, I'm through with her. What type of treatment would she get / where would she go. With all these elderly abuse laws on the books, you'd think this would not happen. Oh... wait... wait... insurance companies are today's "God." But we're a civilized society... really? Another part of the de-evolution of society. LOL... no this is not my first rant about society. So... decision time. The supervisor of nursing stated mom had 7-10 days without the feeding tube. With a feeding tube.... she said maybe six weeks. But in what state will she be in? To counter the agony of cancer, lungs filling up / kidneys shutting down she will be so sedated, would she feel pain? Could she say if she did? Would she even know who I am? It may have once been patient care first but now it's investment driven..... you know, like the Matrix.

Bet I'm a life of the party huh! Well... mom and I talked a lot today. Mom and DC (don't ask) cut up, laughed, mom told all the times I was a little schit as a kid. Mom's stories were sketch but we got the meaning. I could easily tell it meant a lot to mom to come down and stay a few hours. Here is where I am so glad I put up with her schit so much, over the last year +. No regrets.... no apologies. I don't know, or could imagine how miserable I would feel if I brushed her aside.... until now. Talk about guilt.... damn! Yes I put up with more schit from her than any female ever. But...... only one mom. Can't break-up with your mom.

Hundreds of things I would love to do over but millions of things I wouldn't change a thing. That's a pretty damn good batting average. Talked last week to my xBiL, being his mom was my MiL / 2nd mom. She died in 2007. We were close but we could talk man to man bout his mom, my mom. I never "trusted" him but I haven't really ever trusted anyone, not even pop, but mom 100%. We spoke several hours... next morning guess who I get messages from... yeah. Very inconsiderate.... kinda like me throwing away / burning the rest of his schit he hasn't came and got. Don't like it? Well... I didn't like what he did either. He can come to my front door, welcome it. If he brings his sister, he will receive a "very stern lecture, non-verbally."

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Sorry, Chuck. Prayers for your family, brother.

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Mom was finally placed in a rehab facility for skilled care. There was quite a bit of the hospital seeing mom as "losing them money" and wanting her out ASAP. The social worker was placing her in a rehab who could give her a better "pic line nutrient" but this was 100 miles away. Her relatives are old, as in 60+.... and I was not fond of her being that far away. I would not get to run by and see her daily or almost daily. The SW set this up and the admissions called me to come the next day to sign papers. "WTH" Didn't say anything to me about mom being approved, whatcha think. I asked her for something closer, she again set up appointment for me to go to same place, 100 miles away. Now the first time, it was an oversight, the second time, I was not kind.

"Two things I do not mind saying to anyone is -no- and -Fyou-" SW tried to push mom out without me talking to the Dr. Even thought I knew the prognosis, still wanted to see the Dr. Luckily a rep from mom's insurance called me, spelled it out... mom can be five miles away from me and the relatives, Not as strong a nutrient feed but.... here is where the quality of life comes into play. She has cancer everywhere.... she can have the best nutrient bag known to humanity but it will only elongate the fact, cancer will kill her. If mom came home.... no nutrient bag, maybe week-ten days. I chose the one in the middle. I could sue a rehab / nursing home / hospital for not giving her the nutrient bag under abuse. But when she comes home...... something just isn't right.

I was later informed by the insurance rep.... the SW had to ask mom's sister (yes my ex aunt) to leave her room several times because she was making mom exasperated. My question.... WTF didn't the SW tell me that? Mom is not at her hospital anymore but bet the farm I ain't done with her peek-a-boo schit. One of the times ex aunt was asked to leave must have been yesterday.... as I was pulling into mom's apartment to clean it up before turning her key in. Ex aunt, first time I had seen her since I guess March, yelled my name and said -Go to hell xxxx- I smiled, "I hope that made you fell better saying that." No need to engage, as pop said -When you argue with a fool, you wonder who the fool really is-

I carry no grudges with mom, wasn't her the last year. Former TAM great Zillard once said his XW was great nine years and had that one bad year. He was willing to give it a try, and I agreed. Mom was great 43 of my 44 years.... yes we had rough patch after pop died and yes it played a part in me staying at friend's houses and eventually, moving in with my future XW. But once we had separate addresses, things were okay. Mom can no longer care for herself so...... I can finally say, as to my ex aunt, "Gloves are off bytch" 8>)

In closing, things have been weird. Really weird. 2nd love has been a HUGE help. 1st love has offered to help however she can. WC / XW even offered to help.... betcha knew that was coming..... said no to XW. DC.... I never told her don't say it, show it. We were through. I can't tell you what she has done.... it just doesn't add up. But right now, I need all the help I can get. Mom's relatives are old, they may offer encouragement from a far but, it's just me. DC helped me move mom's stuff, clean-up afterwards, clean her carpet, situate mom's things here at my place, was a surrogate for me with the SW in mom's future care, make sure I'm ok. WTF? He!! when I turned mom's key into the manager's office, she said she would pray for me and my wife. "We aren't married LOL" -Could've swore you were. She really loves you, I'm an old broad and I can see it- Weird schit..... just weird. Boundaries are up, try to and I'll smile and act accordingly.

"Being nice takes no effort but being an a$$hole does. Let them sweat," Mom 1987

My ex aunt is now like my STBXW.... LOL..... act accordingly
See... life isn't complicated!

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Not really know where to start but.... I called it / WETF it was with DC a second and last time. I have boundaries and I stick to them. Sad... she has a good soul. Showing up at 10 on a date scheduled for 7, no call / message... very inconsiderate. Or I'll be there at 7 or 8 and show up near 1AM... and is mad I won't come to the door.... seriously! Banged on the door, window, blowing the phone up, trying to video chat. -I know you're here, your FB is active- I don't have a smartphone btw. I was sitting in the kitchen with the lights off, having a drink, chatting with an old TAM vet on the phone. After 45 minutes, she left. I messaged her at 4AM "WTF are you talking about.... I was visiting mom in hospital after you did your no-show, no call." I then went to bed. 430AM... guess who is banging on my door. Guess who wanted to argue. "It's late, I'm fvcking tired, I'm going to bed. Stay or go, up to you." She stayed, had a great weekend. I told her my tolerance for this flightiness has about reached its end.

Not even two weeks later.... same thing. No late night at my door this time. Wouldn't have answered anyway. I'm bummed a bit but nothing like a month ago, it really bothered me then, even if I did call it. I'm probably guilty of hoping we would be together through mom's last stage. I pretty much see it as the scene in About Last Night where they break up, when Moore says -You started out real strong but you're finishing like a wimp- Pretty much how it went. Like H4F said... I was so damn close. But I can say "I had the time of my life," don't get to say that many times.

I re-did my OLD profiles and since I'm "new meat" I am getting many hits. I'll check them out later. Like I told Pac-Man... just post it and let them come to you.... cuts out wasted time with attention seekers desperate for an ego boost. Same thing is already starting though... never figured out why. On POF... I list I want kids and have none. Still getting messages from women in late 40s and early 50s..... who of course, have doesn't want kids on theirs. *eyeroll*

WC is using the same bank as I do. How do you know Chuck? An NSF charge was sent to my address. LOL Some things... never change. A female friend has a cousin who is a drunk but collects disability, we're thinking of setting them up 8>)

I sat at the lake (betcha already knew that) and just had memories flash by. DC sent a message after the break-up -I still want us to be friends- and -I will never forget you- WETF that means LOL. I actually do know what that means. BTW she blocked me afterwards LMAO. Guess Ratt got the nod over Danger Danger. How do I feel now.... Well I will lift a song from Mike and Angie's break-up, early 1988.....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LJ4wa-432xQ Paul Carrack-Don't Shed a Tear for Me

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Mom has maybe a week to go. Non-verbal, breathing labored. Held her hand and talked about times gone by. Veteran hospice nurse stopped in to check, she knew….. -just let it out- Cried like a fvcking baby. I am so thankful how I handled her actions the last year. I feel like schit and have zero regrets. She knows that, I know that. I’m not religious in an organized religion sense but I do believe. Said the Lord’s Prayer while holding her hand, just like I did pop 20 years ago. Could be tonight, could be a week, but with her stubborn arse could be a year lol. We forgave everything last month…. No ill will, just memories of prior August 2015. That’s what I will carry with me until I too, return to dirt. It was only four years ago…. She looked at me, in a sad sack state while D was looming, -She did you a favor, she set you free- The maker of mashed taters, visual subscriber to People magazine (never read stories, just viewed pics and crossword), no classroom education in 50 years…. Took me, a PhD candidate to school, on life. Aside from XW / WCs crazy action that night in the garage which led to Conrad to term her “Window Cork,” that was the best feeling I had in those numb times.

I really wished things would have worked out with DC… she was beyond helpful. Had neither of the blow ups happened and she was with me through this, that would have told me a great deal about her character. Sadly I can not say that to any degree. I saw a light with her, just a glimpse, that I saw once before. WC 1997 would have stood by me through this, never showed up hours late for a “date,” and made herself available anytime. That’s what couples “in love” do. Roxette said it best in ’87, -it must’ve been love but it’s over now-


OLD….. back at it…. UGH. Had few dates, meet n greets. Even met up with MB, my 1996-97 flame first time in 20 years. Drama queen then, same as now. She was the one right before I met WC. I’m on Zoosk for the first time…. I recall DC saying it was decent when she tried it. Guess who is back on it too….. guess who gives my profile more hits than a coke head -just wanting to relieve stress-. Same profile since day 1, no new pics. Guess I’m a hard habit to break LOL …. Not taking the bait, can’t really see a logical reason to do so, TBH. It could’ve, it even should’ve…. But wasn’t. She showed me who she really was, twice, I believe her……

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Mom passed this evening. Not much to say at the moment. Now she can eat all the foods she couldn't and drink all the Cokes she wants. Just don't get into a cuss fight with pop as soon as you get to where you are going *wink*

Ex FWB gave me a Bon Jovi CD one of the last times we were together. It had a song which stuck with me and on this occasion, it would be fitting....

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Sorry for your loss Chuck. Hang in there buddy.

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I haven't broken down "yet". In a sad way, part of me is waiting for DC, who was with me through most of the downfall. Yeah not healthy but schit, I'm human. I did something yesterday that the guys may 2x4 me for..... well, if it is deserved, so be it......

When I was going to xxx yesterday to get mom's stuff I heard on the radio about the F3 tornado that hit xxx, that's where DC lives. I almost turned around. I called her from the nursing home asking if she was okay. She acted like she wasn't sure who I was (lie). DC said she meant to FB message me about how mom was doing (who knows, lie?) I told her she can come here if she needs anything, food. I was just worried about her. She asked if I was working at said nursing home (weird), She knew that's where mom was. Anyway... she kept acting like she wanted to talk, nothing specific, and I kept telling her I was on company phone. I left it as "if you need anything just holler" and that was that. Once power came back on about 8 hours later, I was going to tell her to come over if she needed to........ since yesterday.... or this morning after calling her? she blocked me on FB again.....

Two were killed not even 300 yards away..... I was genuinely concerned for her..... I will admit that. It was a #2. Just the blocking me, seriously.

Of all the people I have back chatted with.... from TAM, I know damn good and well, I would say "stand still." Easier said than done.... as my profile on TAM indicates from 2012. NC / 180ing is easy for me... but my heart says otherwise.

Her dad's heath is not the best by far.... I would have gladly returned the favor. But this is a choice I can not make. I can not control what other people do and choose. Hurt.... he!! yes but I did the right thing. Sometimes doing the right thing hurts more.....

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Been travelling. Very sorry to hear about your mom's passing.

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I am very sorry for the loss of your mother Chuck. (((hugs)))


As for the solicited 2X4, all I will say is this:

Calling DC after a natural disaster is just you being the decent human-being that you are. She was oblivious to that fact but whatever.

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When I was going to xxx yesterday to get mom's stuff I heard on the radio about the F3 tornado that hit xxx, that's where DC lives. I almost turned around. I called her from the nursing home asking if she was okay. She acted like she wasn't sure who I was (lie). DC said she meant to FB message me about how mom was doing (who knows, lie?) I told her she can come here if she needs anything, food. I was just worried about her. She asked if I was working at said nursing home (weird), She knew that's where mom was. Anyway... she kept acting like she wanted to talk, nothing specific, and I kept telling her I was on company phone. I left it as "if you need anything just holler" and that was that. Once power came back on about 8 hours later, I was going to tell her to come over if she needed to........ since yesterday.... or this morning after calling her? she blocked me on FB again.....
And, if you are willing to put up with the above type of behavior from her then she better be really, really, really good in bed. Sheesh. She isn't worthy of you Chuck, I hope you know that.
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I am very sorry for the loss of your mother Chuck. (((hugs)))


As for the solicited 2X4, all I will say is this:

Calling DC after a natural disaster is just you being the decent human-being that you are. She was oblivious to that fact but whatever.



And, if you are willing to put up with the above type of behavior from her then she better be really, really, really good in bed. Sheesh. She isn't worthy of you Chuck, I hope you know that.
HUGS and thank you RS. I vent here where I can't otherwise. But no... the disrespect is a violation of my core beliefs. This was a sneak preview of things to come. I regret nothing about blowing it up twice. I know good and well I could find 25 posts where I have told the guy to "walk the F away," from a toxic relationship.

Of all the people I want to break down with, DC was top of the list. I will now go with option #2. All I wanted was her time and for her to value mine as well (during this I had major flashbacks to Zillards thing with Tiger).

I never realized it but the last three times with 2nd love in 1995 and 1996, I ended things because I did not like where things were heading, same thing with MC in 1996, the 1996-97 flame MB I ended because I was not getting what I wanted out of the LTR, dropped D papers on WC in 2012 when she refused to work on the M, told UG to move out when she refused to talk about things which bothered me in 2014... and twice blew it up with DC for no shows, poor communication, and not respecting my boundaries.

My heart still loves her but... it will pass with time. I love loaded pizzas but I know if I ate them every day, I would be a 350 pound sloth. We don't always get what we want.... but sometimes, we get what we need. When my trust in someone is broken, might as well call it right then.

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It's been a tough road here lately. Recently I reached the "clarity" stage after day seven of not eating. Days 7-12 are spectacular. Had to buy some new clothes. I did fall to my de facto #2 to break down. Well #2 was Window Cork / XW. She knew mom more than any other person. She knew the pain I was holding in. We talked a bit, caught up on old times. Not a drop of animosity in the air. We laughed and hugged as we did back in '97. We sat up late drinking coffee, like in the old days. We had sex like we did back in the old days. Yeah... but one must remember, I told Tom67 I would sleep with my XW after the Cubs won the World Series. Well... they won it.... and she just moved back to town. What can I say???

No... not a chance in he!! will I re-visit that situation. That night.... WC was the woman I knew back in '97. I will always love, who she "was." I even have to thank her for aiding me in my WC '97 measurements. Her then..... would do about anything just to see me, never show up late for a date, and always made herself available if I was having strife anywhere. If a female can't pass this test after 3-4 months.... walk the F away. Major reason I ended things both times with DC. I'm still pizzed off about things but.... grieve, move on. Ice cold is about here.

I have had support from many people I never thought would have stepped up their game / caring. Quite a few are ex g/fs.... most of my exs are friends on FB. Not that it is bragging or anything, but it does show I treated them with kindness through the years. Minus the occasional cuss fights LOL back in the day. My BFF / IC.... who I have been friends with 25+ years has pretty much said.... I'm now your stand-in mom..... you ask / call me any damn time. To talk, vent, cuss, WGAF..... and when you find your next serious LTR, I must meet them.... for approval. We don't see eye to eye on relationship issues anymore but.... it did mean a lot. We still hold many of the same viewpoints concerning life.

Zoosk isn't bad but the matches they send you, most are 75-100 miles away, shocker! As with POF.... take the mileage indicator with grain of salt. Add 50% to whatever is given.... 100=150, 40=60. Nice to know there are women 300 miles away that want to meet me but..... One is very interesting.... local... has apartment right on the river..... damn I could write novels forever there LOL She is coming to my place tomorrow.... see how it goes. Have another one for Saturday... should have met Monday but she had to cancel and even told me why. I fell out of my damn chair when she told me.... she started. Then she said I can't believe I told you that.... ummm yeah! Course like a female friend said.... -She still could have met you for Heaven's sake but.... if she was eyeing sex....- Hmmm....

DC is still viewing me 2-3x a day.... then deactivating her account. Am I that cute? LOL It did bother me, then it pizzed me off, now I just see it as... funny. My former FWB / now friend actually summed it up well.... and she is a complete airhead..... -She could not bring herself to end it so she forced you to, to avoid the guilt- Which reminded me of what BFF / IC told me about WC back four years ago..... -When she realizes there is no one else out there, she will be back- She was right..... By the time WC realized this, I was done. History will repeat itself, whenever. -People self-sabotage a LTR because they do not know how to act in one or because they do not feel they deserve to be in one- old TAM vet told me that.

Bandaged people, broken people.... welcome to dating in your 40s. How I wish I were born 50 years prior. Just follow the four types.... I still want Danger Danger's "One Step from Paradise" but... you can't settle for Meow Mix when you are wanting high end lasagna.

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Sort of dreading the Christmas Eve / Day thing this year. No matter where I lived, mom would come where I / we or I / we go to her place. Can't do that anymore. I would hate to see me if she'd died suddenly *shudder* But the memories will carry me through. Her n pop made a Christmas card and had me on it.... 5 months old... red stocking on head and my bare arse showing. No one thought a thing of it.... then. Today I am sure CPS would have come knocking. Another "freedom" .... "policed away"

With DC, the girl I dated around my age back in the spring, and FWB from 2015.... don't really have a Top 10 Schitty Dates this year. Granted if I had a few more months, I would have. Met the ex-wife of a preacher. Drank coffee... we sat in the car, talked, she brought JD Sippin' tea, drank it in the parking lot. I won't go into any more details but all I see is her actions are in many ways, to make her feel she is getting back at her XH / preacher. Actually brought this up to her, complete denial... yeah ok.

Met one who proclaimed her utmost shyness. She FB'd me.... about every other day she would post a semi-revealing pic and 12-15 guys would eat it up. SMFH..... She checked her make up as often as a girl would at her Senior Prom. Nope...nada.... Talked to one, was interested.... nearby... she is a dog lover, as in four inside dogs, two small.... two huge. She must be related to WC. I'll pass. Another whom I had briefly chatted with right before DC and I got serious.... I messaged her, apologized for disappearing, etc. We talked on the phone a couple hours... very nice exchange. Right before we were to meet. she inquires about two pics on my profile.... claiming one, was not me. Guys... some of you know me away from here.... she referred to the pics taken in Nov '14 in a parking lot (I hate that pic btw) and the one a month later in what looks to be, a medical office. Granted... I dropped at least 30 pounds in that time.... but the two pics aren't the same person???? GTFOH.... Cancel that meet.

And there's always.... the crazy one. Not exactly crazy but.... about my age, D, four kids, all grown but one, is 17. XH worked in Huntsville, made killer $, "said" she got lifetime alimony (in Alabama?). She halfway admitted she is severely Co-D with her kids being they took sides in the D. Guys.... it gets better.... she is.... *gasp* a nurse. Anyway... I was already PO'd that day, friend told me DC already had pic up of her n new guy -No need to look... severe downgrade and I'll bet that was done just to pizz you off. Why else post a guy who is a "4" when you are an "8"- WETF that means but... the friend meant well. So here's Chucky.... ready to entertain a "high society" female.

Cranked up Autograph "Turn up the Radio" as she was coming to my place for the 1st meet. We had chatted a good bit, I'm a great conversationalist, what can I say? She met the dog in the yard, planted his nose you know where (good doggy). She brought two bottles of wine, and was nervous as he!!. Few hours in she relaxed, made out, all over me, I had a slight buzz, she drank way way too much. I have a rule, no 1st time sex when both are lit... impaired judgement and it Fs all your emotions up. We jumped up n down on 3rd base all night.

When a woman gets tipsy, I think it's cute. But when she drinks too much, very unattractive. Several times she indicated she wanted to go all the way but I was steadfast. Granted I heated her up like a turkey on Thanksgiving. We were slow dancing to some old Journey and stumble, stumble, stumble..... unattractive. The kicker... she had to be at work at 8.... she was very intoxicated, and still poured the last of the two wine bottles in her glass at.... 330AM. So drunk she had trouble flipping her ashes in the ash tray, which was the size of an NFL lineman's arse. Not for me..... drinking issues. How do those turn out LOL

Again... all I see on OLD are women + / - five years of me, D, just wanting to screw. Not what I want. Yes it may be "what I need" but I don't care for it. Single females 25-35, no kids, won't respond to a message. Sad.... Course I do get the 30somethings with four kids by three guys who work part time at a fast food joint and nothing past a HS diploma. *Eyeroll* Seems everyone doesn't want to date anymore, just screw, be FWB until one or both get invested and then it blows up like a reality show. Which had me to think...... DC sold me an LTR but "bait n switched" it with FWB. Sex was never a problem. By doing things together, I was under the impression it was a LTR.... maybe she entertained that and got scared. Either way.... not my problem.

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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