Taking her to her own pediatrician is a good thing to do. For one thing, up to now it's been all you and your family.
If Social Services does nothing, there are things that you can do. For one thing you can get your kids into counseling so that they have someone other than you to talk to about this. And the counselor is a mandatory reporter.
Also talk to the counselor and ask that with you there, they tell your children what is ok and not ok for this guy and his mother to do.
I am in the process of getting them set up with a therapist. It has been on my mind, but the events of last week cinched it. The therapist who was recommended to be was on vacation last week (today we her first day back), but she said she had openings next week and that I should leave her a message if I was interested (which I did)...so just waiting for a call back.
My uncle's concern was that even though he is a family doctor, he's also my uncle...and he felt it would be a good idea to have her looked at by her own doctor. I guess the bruising is fainter than it was, but my mom felt you could still tell it was a hand print.
When my uncle saw it on Saturday, he had no doubt in his mind what it was. He was even able to describe to me what part of the hand caused what bruise.
As I went back and forth with my ex on Saturday, I kept telling her that someone put a hand print on our daughter and if it was not me and it was not her then who was it...and she could not give me an answer.
I also told her - when she would go on about everyone attacking her - that it was not about her, it was about our daughter.
If it had been simply an accusation...I would still have listened. I would still have brought it to my ex's attention (as I have with some smaller things)...but because there was physical proof attached to it, it is what it is.
I don't know if anything will come out of this. I live in a big county. Social services might not look into it, but at the least I've served them notice that this is serious.
...and that is the other thing. The ex just doesn't seem to take this seriously. She went to a theme park on Sunday. If it had been the other way around, I would not have acted business as usual.
The therapy will help. I do feel like the kids have things they want to say, but they don't know how to express them or they do not feel comfortable expressing them for whatever reason.
I just hate all of this. I hate that we have to go through this. I hate that she made such rotten choices that this is what we're going through right now.