I cant believe you remember my earlier rants! That goes for some of the other posters here too. Makes me feel appreciated and thankful that there are "strangers" who listen and care.
My gut was telling me exactly how you replied about my EX. It just stinks accepting it. I will just have to plan to express my concerns and just be straight forward and not expect any response or reassurance in return.
Also, since my kids have been away, i have been doing some summer cleaning and discovered some heart ache regarding my kids feelings towards their mom. My son wrote a poem at school dated earlier this spring about the color blue which stated things like, the blue is like water, like cold, blue is like my mom and blue makes me feel sad.
Found an old journal of my daughter dating back 2 years ago stating that she misses her mom, WHY did she move away and that she is never coming back. My guess is that the topic is rarely brought up when they see her. Don't know how to tell their mom except for just telling her straight up. I have pics to prove it that i can send her too.
Co-parenting can be challenging after the divorce. She lets them get away with a bit more than I and i believe some of it has to do with her guilt since she lives so far from them.
As for her dad, it was awkward as hell at first. We were both dissapointed in each other. I do feel both of us were trying to help our kids with the key difference in that mine are young and innocent while his daughter is (insert adjective). We are doing better, but i can tell its not the same as before.
My GF and I do differ some in parenting. She yells at her kids when they are not doing what they are supposed to where I do not yell, but speak calmly and firmly, most of the time!