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Re: Should we remain friends?

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I am actually considering family court, because when she gets mad her first move is to keep my children away from me, specially the two year old, and i am getting tired of this drama
My recommendation for keeping a journal comes into play here. Make sure you are documenting that she is not following the court ordered parenting plan. If you really want to cover your bases, send her a return receipt required (R3) letter every time she does this and keep a copy for yourself. If (and when) you go back to court, you need to be able to show a pattern of with holding, not just a single event. Between your journal of showing that you are a super dad and a pile of documents showing she is withholding, perhaps you can move for a change of parenting plan so that you have more time with your kids. And as a consequence, lower your CS and be able to spend money directly on your kids instead of giving it to your ex.

I would also recommend that you find a neutral location to exchange the kids as she sounds a little volatile. Also consider carrying a voice activated recorder when you do have to be in her presence physically. This is all CYA stuff to try and keep you out of trouble.

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My recommendation for keeping a journal comes into play here. Make sure you are documenting that she is not following the court ordered parenting plan. If you really want to cover your bases, send her a return receipt required (R3) letter every time she does this and keep a copy for yourself. If (and when) you go back to court, you need to be able to show a pattern of with holding, not just a single event. Between your journal of showing that you are a super dad and a pile of documents showing she is withholding, perhaps you can move for a change of parenting plan so that you have more time with your kids. And as a consequence, lower your CS and be able to spend money directly on your kids instead of giving it to your ex.



I would also recommend that you find a neutral location to exchange the kids as she sounds a little volatile. Also consider carrying a voice activated recorder when you do have to be in her presence physically. This is all CYA stuff to try and keep you out of trouble.


Sounds like a good idea, sad that we have to reach this point but I have to protect myself. Thanks for the tips


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