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post #16 of 18 (permalink) Old 09-20-2016, 03:13 PM
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Re: Anniversary Date

Originally Posted by Wolf1974 View Post
That's strange. I know I had to get used to doing something for my birthday because my X never felt it was important so we never did anything ..but I always wanted to
We did talk about it a little more, and he said that in his family, they never made a big deal out of birthdays. Like he might get a text from his sister that says "Happy Birthday!" and that will be it. I don't know if his XW ever really did much of anything.

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FIP, my hubby is like this about his bday, too. He wants it quiet so I just throw a party for us. It's on a major holiday, which is one reason he doesn't like to go out. I buy him one of those freaking huuuuuge balloons from the party store and cook his favorite food. I rent a bunch of meat head action films (he loves them and I'm kind of meh! about them... But hey, it's his bday...). Then I jump him.

The best idea I ever had on his bday... Google mancrates. I kid you not, he turned into a happy little boy when I bought him one last year.

I swear I can just about get him to crack a sideways smile when I do things like this. And for him, it means he loved it.

I call BS on guys that say they don't want to do anything for their bday. That's just not allowed in my world.
I decided that I'm going to take him out for dinner, and I'm going to leave it at that. I thought about getting him a gift, but we're still not "official" so I thought that a gift might be too much? (I also don't want to set the precedent for physical gift giving on special occasions.)

I asked him where he wanted to go for dinner for his birthday, and he said, well, I used to always go to XYZ steakhouse for my birthday, they have a drunken ribeye that I really like. I haven't been there in a long time. Then, a couple minutes later, he says, I want you to surprise me and take me somewhere I've never been. (I'm guessing that his XW must have taken him to that steakhouse for multiple birthdays, so he wants to do something else. I'm guessing that because he also named a couple places that were off limits because one was where he proposed, and another was where he had his wedding reception.)

I wanted to take him here, but I couldn't get an early enough reservation. So instead, I'm taking him to this fantastic authentic northern Italian restaurant, Acqua al 2. I think he'll like it.

ETA: But I love the mancrate idea, I may store that away for another day.

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post #17 of 18 (permalink) Old 09-26-2016, 08:38 PM
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Re: Anniversary Date

For the life of me I cannot remember the date I first got married. Maybe I'm losing it?

The anniversary of when my first marriage ended is also the anniversary of meeting my new partner 2 years later. Was a bit weird at first.
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post #18 of 18 (permalink) Old 09-28-2016, 09:20 PM
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Re: Anniversary Date

I forgot it was our anniversary date and remembered some weeks after it passed...
He has actually forgotten it a couple of times in the past years (when we were married).
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