That's strange. I know I had to get used to doing something for my birthday because my X never felt it was important so we never did anything ..but I always wanted to
We did talk about it a little more, and he said that in his family, they never made a big deal out of birthdays. Like he might get a text from his sister that says "Happy Birthday!" and that will be it. I don't know if his XW ever really did much of anything.
FIP, my hubby is like this about his bday, too. He wants it quiet so I just throw a party for us. It's on a major holiday, which is one reason he doesn't like to go out. I buy him one of those freaking huuuuuge balloons from the party store and cook his favorite food. I rent a bunch of meat head action films (he loves them and I'm kind of meh! about them... But hey, it's his bday...). Then I jump him.
The best idea I ever had on his bday... Google mancrates. I kid you not, he turned into a happy little boy when I bought him one last year.
I swear I can just about get him to crack a sideways smile when I do things like this. And for him, it means he loved it.
I call BS on guys that say they don't want to do anything for their bday. That's just not allowed in my world.
I decided that I'm going to take him out for dinner, and I'm going to leave it at that. I thought about getting him a gift, but we're still not "official" so I thought that a gift might be too much? (I also don't want to set the precedent for physical gift giving on special occasions.)
I asked him where he wanted to go for dinner for his birthday, and he said, well, I used to always go to XYZ steakhouse for my birthday, they have a drunken ribeye that I really like. I haven't been there in a long time.
Then, a couple minutes later, he says, I want you to surprise me and take me somewhere I've never been
. (I'm guessing that his XW must have taken him to that steakhouse for multiple birthdays, so he wants to do something else. I'm guessing that because he also named a couple places that were off limits because one was where he proposed, and another was where he had his wedding reception.)
I wanted to take him here
, but I couldn't get an early enough reservation. So instead, I'm taking him to this fantastic authentic northern Italian restaurant, Acqua al 2
. I think he'll like it.
ETA: But I love the mancrate idea, I may store that away for another day.