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I agree with @Chuck71.

My father worked in asphalt and cement. After about 10 years, he was foreman of multipe crews and making $80k yearly. This was back in the 90's and early 00's. Dad was not only highly intelligent, but he was also very capable, confident, a natural leader, and had many other good qualities one may not expect in a blue collar worker.

My DH is one of the most intelligent and well read men I have ever known. His passion is history. He's musical and plays several instruments pasably well. He makes above average income as a truck driver.

Truly, don't discount men who aren't formally educated or who don't have advanced degrees. It's surprising how many extremely intelligent and decent wage earning men work jobs like crane operator or heavy machine repair.

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I'll chime in as a member of the $100K+ and PhD class married to same. The marriage has been a disaster in the last decade. As a guy I'm not convinced matching income and education works for everyone due to different expectations..
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I agree with @Chuck71.

My father worked in asphalt and cement. After about 10 years, he was foreman of multipe crews and making $80k yearly. This was back in the 90's and early 00's. Dad was not only highly intelligent, but he was also very capable, confident, a natural leader, and had many other good qualities one may not expect in a blue collar worker.

My DH is one of the most intelligent and well read men I have ever known. His passion is history. He's musical and plays several instruments pasably well. He makes above average income as a truck driver.

Truly, don't discount men who aren't formally educated or who don't have advanced degrees. It's surprising how many extremely intelligent and decent wage earning men work jobs like crane operator or heavy machine repair.
Pop was offered the chance to go to college from his pop. -I'll send you but instead of driving

showroom cars, it'll have do be every day cars.- Pop chose not to go... didn't want to give up

the showroom cars and how it attracted the young ladies. But that was.... 1959.

He should have been a lawyer, missed his calling. My grandmother dropped out of school in

the sixth grade... course it was the Great Depression. Still... smartest woman I ever knew.

I know people (M couples) who make a combined 250k but are on a first name basis with all the

collection agencies. Living large bit every one of them in the last recession.

It isn't what you make... it's what you can do with that money.

But I get what the OP is saying... she doesn't want a guy who lives paycheck to paycheck.

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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Actually, @Chuck71 , I think the OP's concern is having a male companion that is capable of good conversation. She said she would be willing to be a Sugar Momma, so I think the educational requirement is more about being a stimulating companion.
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Actually, @Chuck71 , I think the OP's concern is having a male companion that is capable of good conversation. She said she would be willing to be a Sugar Momma, so I think the educational requirement is more about being a stimulating companion.
In the OP..... she stated she does NOT want to be a sugar momma

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In the OP..... she stated she does NOT want to be a sugar momma
So maybe I should wear my glasses?
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So maybe I should wear my glasses?
I'm with you! My Is ain't what they used to be......

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Quite interesting. Thanks everyone.
I don't think that a year after marriage split up is too soon to start dating again.
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Oh, and I do NOT want to be a sugar momma.
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Quite interesting. Thanks everyone.
I don't think that a year after marriage split up is too soon to start dating again.
Everyone's time frame is different, SadDaisy. Some of your comments indicate that you may need more time.


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Interesting turn of events.
My son and I went to our friends' lake house to a day party this weekend. My ex was there with his new girlfriend. Such a radiant, pretty, sweet lady. I liked her. I was not upset about him having found someone. I am feeling bad for her.
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When my parents were M the 1st time (yes 1st, were re-treads), mom moved to him in GA.

Mom received a card from one of pop's XWs..... a sympathy card! LOL

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When my parents were M the 1st time (yes 1st, were re-treads), mom moved to him in GA.

Mom received a card from one of pop's XWs..... a sympathy card! LOL
Now that's an idea for my XH's fiance! LOL

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I didn't go into details about their relationship with any of common friends.
I really liked the girl. I hope that soon she sees him for what he is.
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I didn't go into details about their relationship with any of common friends.
I really liked the girl. I hope that soon she sees him for what he is.
My friend, C, was married to a real piece of work. They had 3 kids who were still relatively young when they divorced, so they had to have some contact. Of course, C wanted to meet each of her exH's new fiancee's. She nicely warned them about him and then gave them her number.

C, exW2 and ExW3 are all very good friends. C's husband is currently on the lookout for Future exW #4.
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