I just find it odd how much times have changed. When I was in my 20s, I had a rule for myself that I would wait at least three weeks before I slept with a guy. I felt like any sooner and I'd seem "easy" and lose the guy's respect. And even with that rule, the number of men I've slept with is significantly more than most of my female friends.
If I tried to wait 3 weeks with a guy now, he'd probably just push me aside. Is it any wonder our relationships don't seem to stick like they used to. Between online dating and early sex, seems like instant gratification rules above all else.
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Not necessarily. Not always.
I dated one man and thought I'd wait three months to have sex with him and if he wanted to let me go before that, so be it. He actually was OK to wait until 4 months. We lasted 8 months then parted amicably. Simple incompatibility.
My current husband, I waited about 2 months to have sex with him. He wanted to wait as well... Since he knew I'd lose respect for us both if things happened too quickly.
Sex is great, it's important to me, very much so. It's an absolute requirement in my book for a healthy relationship, but before I even go there, I must be certain about the other person, their values, and how we get along. I could have more quickly bumped uglies and let that experience make the decisions for my hamster brain, but I hold my sense of integrity a bit higher than to allow for that.
When I'm sure, I don't hold back. Not all men are patient enough or care to wait. That's OK, It probably means they're not for me and maybe not for you either. .
Forget what others think or guilt you to feel. Do what feels right for you, or you'll live with regrets.