Re: How to start dating again?
FIP has it right. A top tier guy (or gal) fits your ideals of what you are looking for. There are lots of shared characteristics that people universally tend to value such as being successful, attractive, smart, driven, compassionate, etc. Because these traits are universally valued when a guy (or gal) excels in these areas they have a choice of multiple people to date. Usually when women meet guys like this they'll sleep with them quickly because they want to move towards developing a relationship before the guy gets taken by someone else. It's not about whether the woman thinks she is worth waiting for, it's about whether the woman is willing to risk missing out on the opportunity. And of course this works both ways. A guy going after a top tier gal will be more likely to wait, if that is what she wants.
I don't know other people's experience but relationships tend to move much faster post divorce then when I was dating in my teens and twenties. Generally a woman will be willing to have sex within one to three dates if she really likes you and there is chemistry.