Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Where I lay my head
Re: How to start dating again?
As for no kiss on first date.... throw that out there before the meeting but in a casual way. Speaking for guys in general.... that is a turn-off as in setting up low expectations before the date begins.
As for the masters / 100k .... that is a red flag for most guys... like there is a price tag to date you. 100k is nothing in CA or NY... but in many states it is very unattainable in 95% of professions. But I completely get the fact you would not wish to date a fry cook who works the graveyard shift at Bob's Booze n Breakfast.
I have a masters+ but in my search criteria I listed some college. Many highly sought after professions only require a 2 yr or 4 yr degree. If there is no advantage (pay increase for masters and / or higher) to getting a higher degree, there is no incentive to do so.
I have a friend who is a teacher. He has won countless awards and is highly respected. BS degree.... makes $32k... eight years in teaching. Have another who is a "hands worker." Expert brick mason... dropped out of high school. Makes 150k. Very sharp with managing money, sharply dressed when away from work. They live in same city.
All I'm saying is... when you set high expectations... you rule out much potential. What I listed above are the main complaints I hear from guy 25 and up who are in the dating game.
A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past