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post #1 of 22 (permalink) Old 10-19-2016, 03:48 PM Thread Starter
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Signs I have moved on...

Just wanted to post something positive. Counting my blessings kind of thing.

* My anniversary came and went and I didn't even notice. Actually forgot it had happened. Its on an easy day to remember.
* Its so much easier to do things with the kids. I don't have to worry about planning for her. She never helped plan vacations or getaways anyway.
* I am saving a fortune on groceries. If I told you how much money she wasted it would make you sick.
* No longer do I have to listen to the "victim" stories about how she was neglected and abused. Poor me... boo hoo
* Her selfishness and neglect has pushed my oldest right into my arms and home where he is enjoying life.
* I am a much better cook than she ever was. I enjoy cooking and forgot how much I love watching my kids eat something they love that I cooked.
* I have my home. She would love for me to lose it but its not gonna happen. Its mine and I love it.
* The important things I still have and she cant take from me. My kids love me, they love their home, they love their school, and we have fun together.
* Sex. Ok I said it. Its worth mentioning. It was horrible with her. I had no clue what I was missing. So much better. So much more fun. I wasted so much time with her.
* The future and retirement. Its mine now! Don't care what she does.

I dreaded divorce. Begged and pleaded for it not to happen. And it did. But now that I am here a year later I am so glad. Life is so much better now. I know I have my down days but they aren't about her. They are about family. That was always important to me.

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post #2 of 22 (permalink) Old 10-19-2016, 08:23 PM
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Just read your story. What a blessing that you're away from that miserable wretch. I'm very happy for you.
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Re: Signs I have moved on...

Nice update, NMT4M.

You are well along the path of healing, brother.

This time last year, could you have envisioned the NMT4M of today?

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Re: Signs I have moved on...

Sometimes it helps to write down the pros and cons. Then it's like WTH was I thinking?????
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When you send that last alimony check. Put "money well spent" on it.
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One of the nicest, well thought out posts I've read here in a long time..........Thank you for a great success story.
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Just wanted to post something positive. Counting my blessings kind of thing.

* My anniversary came and went and I didn't even notice. Actually forgot it had happened. Its on an easy day to remember.
* Its so much easier to do things with the kids. I don't have to worry about planning for her. She never helped plan vacations or getaways anyway.
* I am saving a fortune on groceries. If I told you how much money she wasted it would make you sick.
* No longer do I have to listen to the "victim" stories about how she was neglected and abused. Poor me... boo hoo
* Her selfishness and neglect has pushed my oldest right into my arms and home where he is enjoying life.
* I am a much better cook than she ever was. I enjoy cooking and forgot how much I love watching my kids eat something they love that I cooked.
* I have my home. She would love for me to lose it but its not gonna happen. Its mine and I love it.
* The important things I still have and she cant take from me. My kids love me, they love their home, they love their school, and we have fun together.
* Sex. Ok I said it. Its worth mentioning. It was horrible with her. I had no clue what I was missing. So much better. So much more fun. I wasted so much time with her.
* The future and retirement. Its mine now! Don't care what she does.

I dreaded divorce. Begged and pleaded for it not to happen. And it did. But now that I am here a year later I am so glad. Life is so much better now. I know I have my down days but they aren't about her. They are about family. That was always important to me.
99.9% of the time this is the standard for people who move on. It's only the people who stay where you get life is miserable.
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post #8 of 22 (permalink) Old 10-19-2016, 11:58 PM
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post #9 of 22 (permalink) Old 10-20-2016, 06:29 AM
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Great to hear! I am on the same path.

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Nice update, NMT4M.

You are well along the path of healing, brother.

This time last year, could you have envisioned the NMT4M of today?
Never! I still have a long way to go. I still regret the past from time to time and I hurt for my boys living in a broken home. But they are doing good and I am happier than I have been in a while.

Its a journey. I hope it makes me stronger.

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Noone can take self-happiness from you. Live well, whether or not others wish you ill. Live well for your family's benefit.

Keep it up!
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Glad you are happy and moving forward.

I always tell people I am happily divorced. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. My only regret was waiting so long to do it (I almost divorced at the 5 year mark but hung in another 10 years. Big mistake!)

But it happened and I am satisfied with my life and glad to be free!!!

Thanks for reminding us of the gift of divorce!
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Re: Signs I have moved on...

I walked away from a similar hell, and all I can say is why I didn't do this sooner? This peace is amazing, the fact that I can enjoy time with my children without somebody always looking for the little things to start an argument make my time with them priceless. I am still in the process of getting my own place and my finances in order since for months I got hit hard with child support and arrears as they claim I owed to her, but I hope she enjoyed each of those checks, because this inner peace like I said.. Amazing. OP I'm happy for you and don't ever look back

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5 years for me and I could write your entire post, except she is a far better cook than me, but I have been catching up, and having fun learning in the process!

Great post, as I tell everyone time and distance is the answer. Best thing that happened to me? She moved far enough away so that I have not "seen" her since Feb of 2012.
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I have to say I am impressed. It took me at least 3 years to get to the healthy place you are. The fact you could do this in a year is something you should be proud of
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