Re: Interesting thought occurred to me
Another thought - I am no longer driven by the "need" to be with someone. I have become more accepting of the messages my inner self is sending, than I was in the past. Today, rather than making excuses and accomodations for something others might do, I listen to my self and decide whether it is worth it or not to spend time with this person. For instance I recently dated a woman who wanted me to commit to an exclusive relationship on the basis of what she said about herself. All I knew about her was from a couple dates, and actually the more I found out, the less attractive she became. I refused to commit to her and broke it off.
Again, this may come as obvious to many. But to myself this was a major breakthrough. In my past I almost always would have caved and ended up in an uncomfortable place, doing anything to keep a relationship alive.
In many ways this relates to my new found acceptance of abundance vs my old outlook of scarcity. In my scarcity mindset, I had limited choices. So if someone came along that met most of my wants and needs, they were acceptable. Especially since there were limited choices. Thus I was prone to settling.
But viewing life thru the prism of abundance has led me to understand that there are in fact many, many choices available. Rather than settling I am free to explore my choices. When I find one that does not appeal to me, I can choose another one. So as far as relationships go - if it isn't this one, it could be the next one.
Also this abundance mindset works its magic in all other aspects of my life. Now I see opportunities, where before I only saw obstacles.
At the center of every moMEnt of my life is ME!