Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Where I lay my head
Re: Life After Divorce
Used to be... you had kids when you were 18-24. By the time they were grown or at least old
enough to choose where to stay, you were still young enough to "start over" at 36-42.
Today.... people are having kids about ten years later. The D rate is always high in the 38-44 range,
just like before. The difference is.... the kids are a lot younger. The children are used as pawns,
intentionally or unintentionally. Then comes the CS.... the alimony (not as bad as before), maintenance
in general, losing the house, alienating the kids. THAT's why some stick it out until the kids
are grown. I see this all the time on this board. Every now and then you read about a D where
the W is the bread winner and she gets taken to the cleaners. Maybe if this happens enough, laws
will be changed. As jb02 is saying.... he can be utterly miserable but be with his kids and maintain
a nice standard of living, or be lonely, broke (a D man with little cash is not attractive to many
females), see kids 50% if he is lucky or in many cases... alienated from them.
A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past