So you think I'm trolling this form?? I'd watch what you say as far as inaccurate information. You say I troll internet forums. This is the only forum I have ever posted in. Also, I'm not talking about losing a couple material things or a couple bucks, I'm talking about survival purely and simply. I have seen many of my friends go from being in a stable financial situation to, at the whim of their wives wanting a divorce, being hard pressed to find a dirty apartment to live in while being stripped from any contact with their kids. This IS real life whether you want to believe it or not as insulting as it may or may not be. These friends of mine didn't have a choice either, their lives were turned upside down by a decision someone else made who didn't give a damn about them. These people are also suffering and recovering from a divorce to. Shouldn't this perspective be heard? I'm sorry if this situation doesn't apply to you but I definitely think that applies to many on this site.
I'm 9 years out from my divorce, so I don't get insulted or offended easily about the topic. I do think you have a point in some cases, because I have seen it happen.
I noticed in your earlier post that you seemed to generalize a bit in terms of gender, though. In my case, I ended up worse off financially than my ex-H did, because my income was higher and I ended up paying him. I really think it is less to do about gender and more about who has been the primary provider.
I think it's just disturbing to some people to think that someone would choose to live their life in an emotionally unhappy situation rather than let go of material things. If it's truly a matter of survival, that's different. And it's certainly a matter of choice.
I don't want to speak for Ynot, but I suspect that it is hard for some people to realize that you DO get a choice and that you chose to stay, yet also seem to wish you were divorced. Many people don't get a choice in the matter, and they end up losing not only their partner and in some cases their children, and many of their material things as well. And then they have no choice but to make the best of it and build a new life. I can relate to that as well.
Those are just my objective thoughts, if it helps.