Right, but the point I'm trying make is that it shouldn't have to be this way. Anyone whether man or woman should have the right to walk away from a marriage and not have to withstand a multitude of financial woes afterward.
Is the issue alimony? Child support?
I stayed for many years in my marriage due to financial concerns. At one point I considered moving into a mobile home. Things haven't turned out nearly that bad, but I still don't see a way to retire at 65. I'll be working until I'm unable. This isn't at all the financial outcome I'd planned on and worked for over the last 35 years. But it is what it is, and I have to agree with the commonly stated sentiment that after getting out it does seem worth the trade off in improved emotional health.
Also, an observation from my employment experiences, when I was laid off (three times by two different employers) things looked pretty bleak. And, during those times it was extremely difficult to think of creative solutions. The stress made it hard to get started on finding something new, as well as making it hard to think broadly of solutions. I know that I was not optimistic at those times, and not optimistic about divorce for many years. But somehow things are working out.
All that to say there may be solutions which are not ideal and maybe not even very good, but which are in fact possible. Try to find those possibles, then see how they can be achieved and how they might even be improved upon. See if there is some hope there. And then you can decide if it is worth the tradeoff of getting your happiness back.
Alternatively, perhaps agreeing with your wife on a practical arrangement of an open marriage is the answer. If she isn't happy, perhaps the solution is for a practical financial arrangement where you stay married but you are both free to have your own lives in every way including relationships.