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Life After Divorce Divorce is complicated, and change is never easy to cope with. Use this section for help and advice on living life after a divorce.

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post #91 of 94 (permalink) Old 12-07-2016, 04:07 PM
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It's only money. Can make more tomorrow or marry a rich woman. Nothing is worth staying in a miserable marriage. If you aren't getting your d!ck sucked at least twice a week and getting laid 5x a week, then you aren't living. I lost over $100k in my divorce and paying $800m to the my ex. Worth every damn cent. Had more sex in the last 11 months than I did my previous 35 years on this earth. Thank God I have morals, a $.20 bullet and a good alibi looked like a good option in the beginning.
Guy, your relationship isn't even a year old yet, of COURSE you two are humping like bunnies! JUST WAIT. That will NOT continue after probably the NEXT year. Its the natural course of any relationship... sex slows down. Doesn't mean it STOPS but still. You are in the throes of the honeymoon stage still, this is why I had tried to discourage you two getting engaged just yet.


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Hmm, you are too funny. Do you want to count likes on just this thread, or the number of people who have already given JB the same advice?
I have no interest in doing either one of those things. I was just pointing out that I am not the only forum member that has noted your posts to be bitter.

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Besides I didn't know JB was a woman.
JB is a woman?? This changes everything.

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Keep enabling the guy, pretty much everyone else who has been around for a period of time has already heard his schtick and tried to give him advice. Someday maybe you'll see reality.
We've covered the enabling/vs not enabling topic ad nauseum. No further comment.
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I don't want to speak for Ynot, but I suspect that it is hard for some people to realize that you DO get a choice and that you chose to stay, yet also seem to wish you were divorced. Many people don't get a choice in the matter, and they end up losing not only their partner and in some cases their children, and many of their material things as well. And then they have no choice but to make the best of it and build a new life. I can relate to that as well.

Those are just my objective thoughts, if it helps.
Yes. most have choices...and most of them are bad for one reason of another.

The choice that many do not have is a FSA, a Financial Security Administration credit card. No funding for fleeing the heat. If you have no family or friends to take you in, temporarily, your' poop is weak.

That one is hard to overcome. It is hard to be free when your wallet or purse is light.

The other choice that many do not have is [having] clarity of purpose and mental resolve....aka, Will Power.

Some other choices could be construed to be advantages, but aren't.

a) The ability to compartmentalize.
b) The ability to roll with the punches.
c) The ability to forgive when forgiving is not appropriate to the situation. A situational value judgement that works against one's better interests.

Having those abilities [by default] keeps your head below the waterline. The air above the waterline being "The Happy State". Why settle for a life under muddy water, when escape is within your reach?

Settling for less is a poor choice.

Just saying.

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Yes. most have choices...and most of them are bad for one reason of another.

The choice that many do not have is a FSA, a Financial Security Administration credit card. No funding for fleeing the heat. If you have no family or friends to take you in, temporarily, your' poop is weak.

That one is hard to overcome. It is hard to be free when your wallet or purse is light.

The other choice that many do not have is [having] clarity of purpose and mental resolve....aka, Will Power.

Some other choices could be construed to be advantages, but aren't.

a) The ability to compartmentalize.
b) The ability to roll with the punches.
c) The ability to forgive when forgiving is not appropriate to the situation. A situational value judgement that works against one's better interests.

Having those abilities [by default] keeps your head below the waterline. The air above the waterline being "The Happy State". Why settle for a life under muddy water, when escape is within your reach?

Settling for less is a poor choice.

Just saying.
This may be one of the only posts you've ever made that I actually understand.
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