Re: My ex wife's is teaching my son bad habits
I need some advice. The mother of my children is moving 16 hours away and wants visitation in the summer for 42 days. My lawyer said I am not responsible for getting them to her if she is moving that far away. He also wants me to push the issue with the courts to have her boyfriend removed from visitation time with her kids. I don't think that will work when she is going to be living that far away. There would be no way to in force it and it's not like she cares about following court orders anyway.
I'm going to try to get legal aid again or save up the $1,800 to take it to court. My ex wife is also pressuring my almost 12 year old daughter to pick her when she turns 12 in February. Every time they talk she and her boyfriend are trying to convince. She doesn't tell them no because she is afraid of what they will do and she is trying to convince her to get her younger siblings to pick her too.
She is really causing my oldest daughter a lot of emotional stress. Just this past weekend they had a bad argument about her moving. She didn't think it was her daughter talking and kept saying it was me. I wasn't even at home at the time or had a phone with me. It's always the same drama with her. If our daughter doesn't talk about the things she wants to she gets angry.
This is what she said to my daughter and son.
"No. I will not do this with you again. This is why I changed my number the first time and if you want to do this again I will not hesitate to change it again. Stop now. If you want to talk about the move then we will talk about it in person. That is all."
This is what my children were talking with her about. I took out my children's names, her son's name, and her boyfriend's name for privacy.
"This is your son mommy and this is what Justin told me and emily. He said that It is ok to steal and that it is easy and that if you don't get caught your fine and he told me to tell emily to steal . We stole gum and candy from the gas station He said that you can get better at it as you get older. He said you have to start off with little stuff and move to big stuff he also said don't ever bring your back pack through the front door to always bring it through a side door. He said when your stealing try not to get caught. He said that he has stole before and he didn't get caught.
He says he doesn't care what daddy says and he doesn't like him and he wants to hurt daddy. He said he doesn't like when we talk to daddy and that's why he leaves out of the room and is mad. He said that daddy is a b word and a word for fighting for his kids and that he she just give them to your mom
He says he wants to hurt daddy because he is an idiot and stupid. He said that daddy is stupid for think that.
He was going to stay with you He also said he wanted to kill daddy because he is sick and a idiot
He also said he doesn't like child 1, child 3, child 3, her new child, or you mommy and he said if you think I'm stupid or dumb I'm not and he said if you think I'm gonna stay with your mom I'm not he also said you were a b word
He said he doesn't like being around you mommy and he didn't want a child with you He said when you, emily, and savanna aren't around that if she doesn't see that he doesn't like or love her then she is stupid and when he is around you he is unhappy.
He always said that kinda stuff when I was with him this is why I didn't like being around him because he talked bad about you and daddy then pretending he didn't around you
Your probably going to say everything I said to him and he is going to be mean to me because he told me never to say anything to you or daddy but I did:-( I should have told you when it first started but I was scared and you won't before me anyway"
Now my oldest daughter had been talking to her for a week. She told her mother 3 times not to talk about her boyfriend on 3 different days. She wanted to talk about her and her brother only. Finally Saturday she got mad and told her mother in a rude way to stop telling her she misses her boyfriend because he doesn't miss you.
Apparently they have overhead him say a lot of bad things about their mother and me. They never told me because they don't want me to get upset. It was too late when I got home and now my daughter won't talk to her mother anymore and she is extremely upset she is moving away.
My oldest daughter talked to her half sister's mother which is the only thing that calmed her down. She has another half brother as well by the same guy. At first I thought that was odd but after talking to both mother's to didn't seem odd anymore.
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